Siral_Exan said:
I also give this a +1, but I am curious on how it would work with magic, for instance to hold a dildo while penetrating a partner.

It still seems to me that would qualify as sex. The fundamental aspect, where one being is physically pleasuring another in a way that can lead to orgasm, is still there.

I suppose once you got into Rube Goldberg levels of complexity for the proxy between two characters, things might get hazy. I suppose the distinction is when control is lost between one character and the other.

Using movement magic on a dildo? Sex. Creating an autonomous dildo, and having that be used? Probably not, unless maybe the caster has it on a very short leash, but even then that's probably not right.