Told others you're a furry?

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This has been a debate on my mind for a while now, anyone here told others IRL that they're a furry? How did that go? Wanted to indulge someone else into the fandom, but too afraid of the repercussions.


Oh god, no. Well, not to most. Only to very select friends who are generally open minded and receptive to the idea who for the most part, don't really care. To them, it's about as taboo as being gay (in that it barely is). But they were already pretty good friends to begin with so I figured there was no harm. It helps to have a group of friends (online anyways, met up through an RP forum before for some reason going "let's make furries" for our oregano demigod universe) who were already into it/got into it alongside you and have *some* presence to back you up. Nothing really changed except there were jokes about my trash preferences, but all ultimately harmless and in good fun.

It also depends on well, how much it dictates your lifestyle. That's the truth of it.

Everyone else, absolutely not. Even though I'm not as "furry" as others (in that I don't really see the appeal of fursuiting, or have a want to visit a con, and so on) I'm not afraid to leave subtle hints. Background picture is from a Jennadelle commission from a while back, I generally play anthropromorphic characters in tabletops (if it can be helped/is sensible in said RPG), and I have some level of bias towards anthro characters in various media.

But it's also absolutely not something I'd indulge in besides discussing it with another friend for fun. While it's an important part of how I approach storytelling and characters, it's also not something I want to make the forefront of what I am. It's sort of like being gay, but never really having a "coming out" to everyone? Which is okay, so long as that's how you want things to go. It just is. I think people would be most accepting of that, but I do understand the appeal of letting it out and about. Still, it's probably not the best for a sudden "here's everything furry!"

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User: BooruHitomi
Date: February 02, 2018

All my friends and close family know. Only my youngest sister has ever given me a lot of crap about it, but that's just her in general. Nine times out of ten, if someone knows I'm furry, it's because they asked where I was heading off to and I answered Anthrocon.


Not the same thing, but in the same vein, and I think I can give you a useful perspective on this. I've told a fair chunk of my family and a number of my friends that I'm a zoophile.

Let me ask you this: Why exactly do you want to tell anyone that you're a furry? What exactly is "being a furry" to you in the first place?

For me, being a zoophile is something fairly major. It affects a good portion of my real life. This isn't generally the case for someone in a "fandom". If "furry" is just a fandom for you, that's probably a sign that you want to keep it to yourself. Likewise, if it's just a fetish, again, people don't generally need to know that.

Basically, if this is something you're really dedicated to, or it's particularly, then maybe you've got a reason. If not, keep it to yourself.

Though it also depends on the sort of relationship you have with whoever you're going to share the info with. If you've got the sort of relationship where you discuss lewd things all the time anyway, then who cares? Not a big deal at that point.


idk why i would tell them. i mean if they find out, then okay, whatever, but i dont see the point of especially telling them..


When it comes to friends, i only reveal my interests to specific ones (already furries or equally depraved in other aspects). Only bad things are the lame ''beasties'' puns and teasings.

When it comes to family, i just got tired of hiding stuff on my pc so i declared my interests (after a bit of ''testing'', naturally, and one thing at a time - first my interest in large women, then of fox/cat/wolf/dragon/etc-women, and then of large fox/cat/wolf/dragon/etc-women).

The reaction was mostly meh to positive since my clan is mild traditionalist & mild liberal (ie. you could in theory transform into a cat/cougar person so long as it wouldn't make you nuts mentally). Though i still didn't tell them about some of my other interests within the furry subculture - males and herms/intersex, since i'm not interested in those when it comes to humans (God help me if humanity ever does create furries irl, i'll have a [email protected] of sexuality issues to sort out :) ).

As for the general public - no, no and no. I live in a fairly conservative country so that's out of the question, and frankly it's none of the society's business to know what i do inside my own four wall so long as i am not hurting anybody.

Welp those are my two cents.


No.
Then again, I just browse porn now and then (like every day) but I never though about myself as "furry".


Clawdragons said:
Not the same thing, but in the same vein, and I think I can give you a useful perspective on this. I've told a fair chunk of my family and a number of my friends that I'm a zoophile.

Let me ask you this: Why exactly do you want to tell anyone that you're a furry? What exactly is "being a furry" to you in the first place?

For me, being a zoophile is something fairly major. It affects a good portion of my real life. This isn't generally the case for someone in a "fandom". If "furry" is just a fandom for you, that's probably a sign that you want to keep it to yourself. Likewise, if it's just a fetish, again, people don't generally need to know that.

Basically, if this is something you're really dedicated to, or it's particularly, then maybe you've got a reason. If not, keep it to yourself.

Though it also depends on the sort of relationship you have with whoever you're going to share the info with. If you've got the sort of relationship where you discuss lewd things all the time anyway, then who cares? Not a big deal at that point.

Thanks, yeah furry to me right now is just appreciating the artwork and online chats right now, but I do have a tendency to lean more towards anthro in videogames and other stuff in life. Definitely don't have an interest in fursuiting, would go to a con. Just sucks that furries have to be some sort of secretive thing in the first place, but I blame the people who take their fetish too far for that.


Haljkljavahlibrz said:
The reaction was mostly meh to positive since my clan is mild traditionalist & mild liberal (ie. you could in theory transform into a cat/cougar person so long as it wouldn't make you nuts mentally). Though i still didn't tell them about some of my other interests within the furry subculture - males and herms/intersex, since i'm not interested in those when it comes to humans (God help me if humanity ever does create furries irl, i'll have a [email protected] of sexuality issues to sort out :)

If furries existed in real life that would be awesome and I'm totally being a Panther. Sadly there's too many other problems that comes with furry that people don't tend to think about, such as all the shampoo costs, fur in the drainage system, and how in the world businesses are supposed to handle the height differences.


Clawdragons said:

For me, being a zoophile is something fairly major.

gasp

no
way


UnseenPanther said:
If furries existed in real life that would be awesome and I'm totally being a Panther. Sadly there's too many other problems that comes with furry that people don't tend to think about, such as all the shampoo costs, fur in the drainage system, and how in the world businesses are supposed to handle the height differences.

I'd be a cougar or some other kind of big cat, as for the fur inconveniences i think that the ''cave-man treatment'' (washing only with water) would suffice for general fur areas and that you'd need to shampoo only once per week, the stinky/easily soiled parts (hands, feet, mouth, armpits and naughty bits) are fairly small and i think that simple cleaning substances would suffice nicely).

I have a hunch that ideally we could see irl furries at least in the latter half of the 21.st century.


Fenrick said:
gasp

no
way

It's almost like the users here now might not necessarily be the same ones from over a year ago (the last time I mentioned this) and that the information might be relevant for the context of my answer.

Gasp indeed!


Haljkljavahlibrz said:
I have a hunch that ideally we could see irl furries at least in the latter half of the 21.st century.

Please, tell me this theory.


Clawdragons said:
It's almost like the users here now might not necessarily be the same ones from over a year ago (the last time I mentioned this) and that the information might be relevant for the context of my answer.

Gasp indeed!

Surprised i missed you admitting to being a zoophile in the original post, was in a hurry reading because of work. Unlike most other people who would probably read that with disgust I shall instead say that takes some real balls to admit to friends and family. I can never be as brave as that XD.


It doesn't necessarily mean he fucks animals.
So stop gasping.


No, I don't really class myself as one either. Don't have a 'sona, don't have interest in suiting.

I just browse the art.

Its fun to try to spot furries though.


Telling people you're a furry is like telling people you're a vegan.


I only tell if they ask. Just recently, my friend asked me why my YouTube name was TheHuskyK9, and I told him. He said, "Oh, cool." :V


Usually I just let my friends figure it out on their own. Or I just joke about being a furry until they ask if I am.


TheHuskyK9 said:
I only tell if they ask. Just recently, my friend asked me why my YouTube name was TheHuskyK9, and I told him. He said, "Oh, cool." :V

I'm surprised he didn't just Google it because the second link is literally a WikiFur article about you, and then your FurAffinity, DeviantArt, Weasyl and e621 accounts.


I don't really have friends, it's also something that doesn't come up in casual conversation with coworkers. Although I have like ten different hoodies with fox and bunny ears,and in all my time at college only one person guessed I'm a furry, he didn't really care he just asked I said yes and that was the end of it.

Although to be honest it doesn't affect my life in any way, other than my various hoods, the wallpapers on my phone and my claws which may be because I'm a furry or it may be so I can take the ears of my enemies. Oh and the porn I've drawn which I've shown my brother because I was so proud of how it came out I just had to show someone, but he already knows I'm a furry although not that particular term or the actual depths of my depravity he also doesn't care.

However I do understand unseenpanthers problem, the one thing I've never told anyone else is that I'm a nudist, even though I wish I could work up the courage to do I could be comfortable more often.


UnseenPanther said:
Please, tell me this theory.

PM me if you want to discuss it further (or start a new topic), as it is not the relevant topic, and also since when i start blabbering it tends to escalate quickly.


Doomguy666 said:
However I do understand unseenpanthers problem, the one thing I've never told anyone else is that I'm a nudist, even though I wish I could work up the courage to do I could be comfortable more often.

Being a nudist doesn't sound like a problem at all, in fact it sounds awesome to admit that to people. Like "yeah, I like to sit around the house naked when no one's around, so what?!"


NotMeNotYou said:
Telling people you're a furry is like telling people you're a vegan.

They look at you funny either way... *sigh*. Though if I had to choose, I would still come out as a vegan before I came out as furry.
Also thanks for everyone's response so far, I see this isn't necessarily a thing you have to admit. Maybe this might be the last time I post in this thread, maybe not. *shrug*


UnseenPanther said:
They look at you funny either way... *sigh*.

My point is more that both aren't exactly important things other people would care about. The only times it's relevant for someone whether or not a person is a vegan is if they're trying to make food for them. In no other scenario will their food preferences make a difference, or be relevant information.
The same goes for being a furry, in day to day interactions that's not going to make a difference to anyone.


Vuno said:
Usually I just let my friends figure it out on their own. Or I just joke about being a furry until they ask if I am.

This. Sarcasm can help hide the truth :V

Also no, no one knows. Some just speculate it but the fact that, over here, few know what a furry is (and of those, basically no one knows me) it makes it pretty much ignorable


Xch3l said:
over here, few know what a furry is

Do you happen to live south of the Great Trump Wall?
Where men are still macho and women would never have sex with donkeys


I haven't told anyone that I'm a furry but that's mainly because I just never saw any real need to do so.


I have never told anyone about my sexual preferences or interest in furries.
I will tell them if they ask me, but I will not do it in the first place all by myself.

I see no reason for it. When nobody asks me about it, then nobody cares.

Also, we live in the year 2018.
Being gay is neither a crime, a sin or anything else and it should be accepted by everyone.
IMO the same thing goes with the furry fandom. If someone likes something or someone else, everyone should accept that and move on. Sadly, this is not always the case.


The only people who know I'm a furry are my online friends who are and aren't furries. I couldn't really tell any of my rl friends I am one or even my family. One side of my family is pretty religious, so there's no way in hell I'm telling them, the other side is much more open minded, but I don't think they even know that furries exist.


Clawdragons said:
It's almost like the users here now might not necessarily be the same ones from over a year ago (the last time I mentioned this) and that the information might be relevant for the context of my answer.

Gasp indeed!

a year? hmm