Topic: How to get more comfortable being bi? (guy)

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Guy here. Because of this site I realized I was bi and rediscovered it pretty recently after almost a decade of repressing it. Something feels wrong when I look at gay stuff on this site. Like I'm into it but there's some sort of anxiety that makes it harder to get off to it. The easiest way I could describe it is a tightness in the chest and my heart POUNDING while my head is thinking "are you really getting off to this? I thought you were straight."
In contrast, gynomorph stuff there's no problem even though they mostly have the same equipment. Have any of you gone through something similar? I don't consider myself a furry but I do enjoy the NSFW content a lot (though it took me maybe 5 years to not have panic attacks about being into that.)

Hope someone can help.

What bothers you about being bi? Do you think your bi side will have some impact on your life or that there's something inherently wrong with it or that people will treat you differently for it? I'd say take out a paper/pencil or open up MS Word, then write about it. Or talk to a therapist about it. Frankly, this is mostly not something I can relate to, though I did go through a brief period (felt like an eternity, and time was a complete blur back then) of severe anxiety attacks over 2 years ago when I more-or-less learned that romantic attraction is apparently a real thing for people and started questioning what that meant for me. In hindsight, it was a lot of anxiety about nothing based on confusion and misunderstandings, but I'll avoid elaborating further. Writing out my clusterfuck of thoughts helped me organize them and eventually feel better.

I don't consider myself a furry but I do enjoy the NSFW content a lot (though it took me maybe 5 years to not have panic attacks about being into that.)

Sorry to hear that :( It sounds like it still causes you anxiety when it's gay stuff. You might want to consider avoiding it with your blacklist or cutting back on this site if it's too stressful.

I was completely uncomfortable with sexuality in general. it took me several years to be able to not go full on anxiety just because I got aroused at any point in time, alone or not. once i was finally able to get to that point. due to personal issues though, I wasn't able to let myself entertain the fact that I was into guys. The signs were always there, but I always fought them in my mind and tried to make up excuses. in particular, finding futa content, which managed to excite me a lot more than pure female content, was one such thing that helped. "there's a penis, but other than that, she's all female, so it's not gay" i would tell myself... this site site actually helped in opening the door to me in accepting that I was actually attracted to guys, but it was actually one day when chatting with a friend online while high that led to the moment that allowed me to fully awaken myself. once PNC hit, i was freaking out, a million thoughts running through my mind. I let myself have a moment with a guy... and I loved it... once I managed to calm down, I managed to get myself to the point where I not only was more comfortable being bi, but even came to embrace it as a part of myself that I wished I was able to much sooner.

my suggestion to you is to put yourself in an environment where you can allow yourself to indulge in practice without pressure. just you and whatever content you're trying to get comfortable with. you don't have to force yourself, if you don't have interest in what you're seeing, you don't have interest. but if it makes you start to feel uncomfortable, and you are still interested in it for some reason, start asking yourself not why it's making you uncomfortable, but why you're interested in it in spite of that. if your mind starts wandering in the direction of being gay, don't just fight it because it's making you uncomfortable, let yourself explore it. you may not completely be into guys, or penis, or anything in that realm. you may find that you're more into guys than you ever let yourself imagine, or you may find that it's just a passing kink and you're almost completely into girls. just relax and let your mind wander when it decides to. once you are finally able to, you will be able to take a lot more comfort in being your true self, whatever that is

Talking to random people in the internet can only go so far. If you are experiencing serious distress, consider consulting a psychologist who specializes in LGBT issues.

When I suddenly noticed first time NSFW strong muscular male monster, my thought was "Hell yes! POWER!!!" like you listening to the cool heavy metal or power metal music. On short I can describe it as raised manly feels. Since physically I’m male, that feel gives me additional psychological bonus. Also, if you replace strong monster with vanilla human I will instantly puke from such view, so it doesn’t work on IRL with humans.
Also, I never consider yourself as human here. I will be like scalie male monster like dragon or tyrannosaurus rex that appreciate strong male power.

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crocogator said:
What bothers you about being bi? Do you think your bi side will have some impact on your life or that there's something inherently wrong with it or that people will treat you differently for it? I'd say take out a paper/pencil or open up MS Word, then write about it. Or talk to a therapist about it. Frankly, this is mostly not something I can relate to, though I did go through a brief period (felt like an eternity, and time was a complete blur back then) of severe anxiety attacks over 2 years ago when I more-or-less learned that romantic attraction is apparently a real thing for people and started questioning what that meant for me. In hindsight, it was a lot of anxiety about nothing based on confusion and misunderstandings, but I'll avoid elaborating further. Writing out my clusterfuck of thoughts helped me organize them and eventually feel better.

Sorry to hear that :( It sounds like it still causes you anxiety when it's gay stuff. You might want to consider avoiding it with your blacklist or cutting back on this site if it's too stressful.

The weird thing is I'm very into it while it's causing me stress. So my mind is basically torn between continuing or giving up.

gattonero2001 said:
Talking to random people in the internet can only go so far. If you are experiencing serious distress, consider consulting a psychologist who specializes in LGBT issues.

I totally agree.