*Egg cracking noises*

Feels like that came out of nowhere...

Oh, that's a nice little surprise. Good for her!

What an amazing story. I do find it creepy how my life strangely aligned with this stories events. Around a year and a half ago I found, by chance, that my friend was a crossdresser, and I had been interested in crossdressing for years. Not long later, my friend (who turned into my boyfriend really quickly) and I started crossdressing together and had fun (you know). There were other events that lined with this as well. On Monday of this week, I finally decided that I am transgender (although, still closeted). It’s so surprising how inline my life is with this story.

This... this hits too close to home.

This is really the only place I feel comfortable asking this question, so please bear with my ignorance.
I rent a room (I inherited a house.) to a 62 year old man that likes to cross-dress on regular basis.
Even though I'm hetero I grew up in a very liberal family, and I never had a problem with renting the room to George.
For the first few weeks I could tell he was very nervous about my reactions whenever he was making his dinner in the kitchen.
With that in mind here's my question.
Even though he's never given me a name other than George, would it be insensitive of me to ask him if he wants me to refer to them as she/her?
Or should I just act normal, and let George bring it up if he ever does?

bluegreenswampthing said:
This is really the only place I feel comfortable asking this question, so please bear with my ignorance.
I rent a room (I inherited a house.) to a 62 year old man that likes to cross-dress on regular basis.
Even though I'm hetero I grew up in a very liberal family, and I never had a problem with renting the room to George.
For the first few weeks I could tell he was very nervous about my reactions whenever he was making his dinner in the kitchen.
With that in mind here's my question.
Even though he's never given me a name other than George, would it be insensitive of me to ask him if he wants me to refer to them as she/her?
Or should I just act normal, and let George bring it up if he ever does?

I think you should take it slow with him, maybe ask a bit at first, but don't push it. Let him be comfortable in telling you.

redlightning said:
I think you should take it slow with him, maybe ask a bit at first, but don't push it. Let him be comfortable in telling you.

I agree with this. If they wish to open up about it they will. It isn't a "one glove fits all" question though. A few of my trans and cross-dressing friends have said they'd prefer to answer questions, set their interactions and educate people near themselves. To answer your question I've been told in the past that it wouldn't be insensitive to ask questions, but is one of the least tactful of going about it.

I personally wouldn't want to make assumptions even if I was 99%-100% sure. Something I've found important to anyone masking their true selves is that they don't enjoy being outed.
If you wish to actively do something, foster an environment where they would be comfortable telling you about themselves and then not break the trust they've given you if they do. Showing interest and creating common ground because of your liberal upbringing & Heck, being a furry should help.

I'm hetero with a liberal upbringing. Bit of a grey muzzle. Somethings have gone well when allying, some not so. Best friend came out as gay to me when I was younger, attend different convention as people feel safe to cross-dress and be themselves to make friends, lived in a flats where 3/4 people were trans-related (coming out, dating, waiting for hormones, pre-op etc), was camera guy for a LBGTQ+ drama group, among other things XD
I hope the information I've given is accurate, but would defer to people in a better position than me.

widgetoyee said:
What an amazing story. I do find it creepy how my life strangely aligned with this stories events. Around a year and a half ago I found, by chance, that my friend was a crossdresser, and I had been interested in crossdressing for years. Not long later, my friend (who turned into my boyfriend really quickly) and I started crossdressing together and had fun (you know). There were other events that lined with this as well. On Monday of this week, I finally decided that I am transgender (although, still closeted). It’s so surprising how inline my life is with this story.

Good for you! :3

why does this porn have a better story than most comics I read that are not porn?
I mean damn these characters feel real and close to home. more real than some people I know.

sparks127 said:
Feels like that came out of nowhere...

Sudden realizations can be like that.

sparks127 said:
Feels like that came out of nowhere...

post #1781076

Frame 2. This is the only time it's hinted at throughout the entire comic

redlightning said:
I think you should take it slow with him, maybe ask a bit at first, but don't push it. Let him be comfortable in telling you.

lurkdragon said:
I agree with this. If they wish to open up about it they will. It isn't a "one glove fits all" question though. A few of my trans and cross-dressing friends have said they'd prefer to answer questions, set their interactions and educate people near themselves. To answer your question I've been told in the past that it wouldn't be insensitive to ask questions, but is one of the least tactful of going about it.

I personally wouldn't want to make assumptions even if I was 99%-100% sure. Something I've found important to anyone masking their true selves is that they don't enjoy being outed.
If you wish to actively do something, foster an environment where they would be comfortable telling you about themselves and then not break the trust they've given you if they do. Showing interest and creating common ground because of your liberal upbringing & Heck, being a furry should help.

I'm hetero with a liberal upbringing. Bit of a grey muzzle. Somethings have gone well when allying, some not so. Best friend came out as gay to me when I was younger, attend different convention as people feel safe to cross-dress and be themselves to make friends, lived in a flats where 3/4 people were trans-related (coming out, dating, waiting for hormones, pre-op etc), was camera guy for a LBGTQ+ drama group, among other things XD
I hope the information I've given is accurate, but would defer to people in a better position than me.

Thanks for the advice.
Almost forgot I asked this question on a whim.

Should all the other posts with Lewis be retroactively tagged to reflect her identity?

Edit: the face in penultimate panel is absurdly adorable. Also I just realized her new name is Elise, whoops

metallosexual said:
Should all the other posts with Lewis be retroactively tagged to reflect her identity?

My personal stance on the tagging is that prior to these panels, she didn’t identify as female and so she wasn’t transgender in lore, yet. I’ll let other people decide that though, the one and only time I tagged a post I put the entirely wrong character in lol

blackstag said:
Him*

Can you not? Even though Lewis/Elise is a fictional character, *HER* experiences are informed by and reflect the experiences of many trans girls in real life.

lelou said:
To be fair, it only seems like she identifies as trans because of a dress, which is technically sexist unless I'm missing something.

You’re missing something :)

lelou said:
Which I'd like to be informed on, unless I'm just gonna get insulted following this response.

I will give you the benefit of the doubt and hope that you are uninformed rather than not meaning well.

What you're missing is that she *realized* she identified as trans because of how comfortable she feels in that dress, more specifically, how comfortable she feels while looking more like a cis woman than she usually does with her male-typical former look, how much more right she feels as a woman. The dress did not make her trans, and it is not about the dress. It helped her realize something about herself that she's probably always felt but never understood. Sometimes people can tell something is off or not quite right without being able to put their finger on what it is. I am not trans, so I cannot claim to have had this experience - however, sexuality can be the same way. If we assume we're default-straight as I did, and then later on experience an ah-hah moment. There may be a trigger, but retrospectively many things from our pasts click right into place.

I can't really see how it's sexist for a typically gendered clothing item to be the catalyst for such gender-relevant realization, especially when there is representation for cis-men who cross-dress in the same comic - it isn't as if this story is saying dresses are only for women.

Again, I am not trans, so as someone else in earlier comments also stated, don't take my word as law and please defer to anyone in a better position than me to explain things.

EDIT: fixed a typo

HappiFurri said:
This... this hits too close to home.

I wholeheartedly agree. This last page (for me anyway,) really hit me in the feels and pretty much validated a lot of my feelings about being non-binary. Its extremely wholesome and I hope I gather as much courage as Elise one day.

This penetrates my trauma-hardened emotional wall and I don't like it.
That wall is there for a reason!
😭

kkpkkpk said:
I will give you the benefit of the doubt and hope that you are uninformed rather than not meaning well.

What you're missing is that she *realized* she identified as trans because of how comfortable she feels in that dress, more specifically, how comfortable she feels while looking more like a cis woman than she usually does with her male-typical former look, how much more right she feels as a woman. The dress did not make her trans, and it is not about the dress. It helped her realize something about herself that she's probably always felt but never understood. Sometimes people can tell something is off or not quite right without being able to put their finger on what it is. I am not trans, so I cannot claim to have had this experience - however, sexuality can be the same way. If we assume we're default-straight as I did, and then later on experience an ah-hah moment. There may be a trigger, but retrospectively many things from our pasts click right into place.

I can't really see how it's sexist for a typically gendered clothing item to be the catalyst for such gender-relevant realization, especially when there is representation for cis-men who cross-dress in the same comic - it isn't as if this story is saying dresses are only for women.

Again, I am not trans, so as someone else in earlier comments also stated, don't take my word as law and please defer to anyone in a better position than me to explain things.

EDIT: fixed a typo

Despite the concern about misrepresentation I'm detecting, you summed it up pretty well, and that's coming from a trans person. A lot of fellow trans people I know actually discovered their true self through crossdressing in one way or another because it allows them to visualize what might never be tangible otherwise.

And dysphoria is one hell of a drug once it fully kicks in. Some people can examine themselves and say, "Why do I hate how I look? This is what I wanted, but it's still wrong." Then it clicks seemingly out of nowhere and everything makes sense. That's when things get so much worse.

The clothing becomes a way to look more accurate to your own internal perception rather than a fun diversion. For example, a cis person who's never heard about being transgender might look at their "male" friend wearing a bra with inserts and tuck underwear as dressing up for fun or a kink, whereas their friend (who's a trans woman in this situation) could be taking steps to appear more feminine for her own self-image.

sparks127 said:
Feels like that came out of nowhere...

It be like that though

And now I know for sure, had a suspension but thought it was too good to be true. Love this 💜

yeaaaapp.. that's familiar, heh.

Cis people: Wow this feels like it came out of nowhere

Trans people like 20 pages ago: mood, mood, yep, mood, same, yep, mood

shinkada said:
Cis people: Wow this feels like it came out of nowhere

Trans people like 20 pages ago: mood, mood, yep, mood, same, yep, mood

I know you were just estimating that, but I counted back 20 pages and it's the start of the blowjob XD

Ngl with that dress, eyelashes and ponytail, looks glorious, wonderful... Perfect.

nimbus_wolf said:
That came out of nowhere. Doesn’t that take almost years of realization and thought? Not just dressing up for a few months?

Nope. Everyone's experiences are different. My friend found out she was trans just from reading this comic and connecting her experiences with Elise's!

happifurri said:
This... this hits too close to home.

Same

Ah...I, uh, wow.....I relate to that so God damn much

sparks127 said:
Feels like that came out of nowhere...

2 Years later... yeah, I get it now.

Amazing porn with a better ending

sparks127 said:
2 Years later... yeah, I get it now.

Awww, that's an adorable followup to your original comment.

This page made me realise something about myself

lowerevergreen said:
This page made me realise something about myself

This page made a lot of us realize things about ourselves. It's a powerful one.

metallosexual said:
Should all the other posts with Lewis be retroactively tagged to reflect her identity?

Edit: the face in penultimate panel is absurdly adorable. Also I just realized her new name is Elise, whoops

Elise.
Lewis.

The W got turned 90 degrees, and got turned into an E. :D

sparks127 said:
Feels like that came out of nowhere...

Sometimes that’s how it goes.

Then you look back and realize the signs were there for a long time.