Why is it that any touch to your dick becomes uncomfortable after you blow your load? (I've always wondered this, though I was able to cum twice in one sitting - in the past -.)

Overstimulation.

BlueDingo said:
Overstimulation.

Hmm… so cumming makes you more sensitive 😏? Well, your sensitivity won't increase infinitely (I know that much biology), but I don't see the purpose of it.

Hot AF science

With your host, freya_crescent

any part of your body can become painful to touch if overstimulated, your penis is especially so because of how many nerves are there and because post-coitus your blood "leaves" your penis. Stimulating it again is like trying to put back the blood, despite no erection (unless you can maintain half-mast, but it's still not a solid erection).

semen is not actually stored in the balls. only produced there

now you know

RusterFuck said:
semen is not actually stored in the balls. only produced there

now you know

The vas deferens produces that, right?

The majority of it, yes.

fox_whisper85 said:
The vas deferens produces that, right?

The vas deferens is just a tube from the testes to the rest of the reproductive system.

The seminal vesicles produce about 70% of the semen, followed by the prostrate with around 25%. Rest is from the balls and other glands.

RusterFuck said:
semen is not actually stored in the balls. only produced there

now you know

Testicles produce sperm. Semen is made in the other bits.

Here's a good place to start:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refractory_period_(sex)

The short version is that various chemicals are released in the brain, and some of these are thought to be the potential cause of the refractory period, and one effect of those is to increase the sensitivity of the penis.

It's like if you're at a buffet and you just ate 3 pizzas, 1 burger, a milkshake, some Sprite, and a slice of cake in 45 minutes. Do you really need those steamy tacos the chef just brought out?

TheHuskyK9 said:
It's like if you're at a buffet and you just ate 3 pizzas, 1 burger, a milkshake, some Sprite, and a slice of cake in 45 minutes. Do you really need those steamy tacos the chef just brought out?

But the shell is made of doritos doh

RusterFuck said:
But the shell is made of doritos doh

What if they're soft tacos?

BlueDingo said:
Overstimulation.

https://img.ifcdn.com/images/7ad0fc4ca436e588ad38f3002088042ce761fc9bca5ff2f1ec345a82bebf2da0_1.jpg

Freya_crescent said:
Why is it that any touch to your dick becomes uncomfortable after you blow your load? (I've always wondered this, though I was able to cum twice in one sitting - in the past -.)

does the same thing happen with clits
?

It's called the refractory period. As far as nature is considered, once you ejaculate, your part in the process is over.

Munkelzahn said:
does the same thing happen with clits
?

it depends on person. for some it happens, for some it doesnt happen, for some it happens but the "recovery time" is like less than 30 seconds and some cannot stand touches on their clits ever.

TheHuskyK9 said:
It's like if you're at a buffet and you just ate 3 pizzas, 1 burger, a milkshake, some Sprite, and a slice of cake in 45 minutes. Do you really need those steamy tacos the chef just brought out?

yes

Munkelzahn said:
does the same thing happen with clits
?

Yes

Taking advantage of this is pretty popular for domination

BlueDingo said:
What if they're soft tacos?

Then they're burritos.

Fenrick said:
Taking advantage of this is pretty popular for domination

Because why enjoy sex?

RJDodger said:

Because why enjoy sex?

Huh? There's more to it than the physical feelings.

I have no idea what you are talking about and I fap like 5+ times.

Fenrick said:
Huh? There's more to it than the physical feelings.

'Twas a joke.

DelurC said:
I have no idea what you are talking about and I fap like 5+ times.

Means you have horrible sensitivity there to start with. It grows more and more sensitive each time.

Furrin_Gok said:
Means you have horrible sensitivity there to start with. It grows more and more sensitive each time.

And so we begin the classic "If you don't sex the way I expect you are defective" penis fencing

FibS said:
And so we begin the classic "If you don't sex the way I expect you are defective" penis fencing

Nothing defective about it at all. Some people just don't have as much sensitivity.

/me sets clitmouse sensitivity to "high"

Was OP's question about the evolutionary benefit of a refractory period existing, or about what makes it uncomfortable? It's uncomfortable because the sensation gets really intense. The reaction happens because if you're incentivized to wait a while between bangings with the same partner, you're less likely to have your coronal ridge scoop out your own semen before you have a chance to successfully fertilize them, to be more likely to out-compete your rivals.

if that's the case, then men with short to nonexistent refractory periods would be superior.

I can bang both my bitch and yours but that's probably because I'm a degenerate tweaker, not because I'm favored by evolution

Fenrick said:
Taking advantage of this is pretty popular for domination

It's one of my fantasies to go through post-orgasm torture. It feels so good yet so bad, but I can't push myself too far with it, at least not alone.

No, it would only be superior to have short or non-existent ones when you go from one female to the next, which studies have suggested is actually the case. Seems like, as you'd expect, they tend to mostly be seen with just the same female. So you don't compete with yourself with a female you've already mated with, but you can more readily go at it with another. I think that to test this, we need to organize some large scale orgies. You know. For science.

notnobody said:
No, it would only be superior to have short or non-existent ones when you go from one female to the next, which studies have suggested is actually the case. Seems like, as you'd expect, they tend to mostly be seen with just the same female. So you don't compete with yourself with a female you've already mated with, but you can more readily go at it with another. I think that to test this, we need to organize some large scale orgies. You know. For science.

The problem with that is that without communal child rearing, a communal sex pit is likely to result in single parents, which also means worse odds of survival. And yes, even with out "superior smarts" and tools, those odds aren't improved. Contrary to the MIB statement: People are smart, a person is a dumb, panicky, and dangerous animal.
See, alone, a person works to their own advances, but together they work for the community's. Unfortunately, "One's own" does not include the child's. Sure, there are some Persons out there who still work with the community despite being alone, and there are some People out there who work towards a more personal advancement, but the risk of harm to your child is greater when you're a Person rather than People.

Note: I'm using the terms 'male' and 'female' here only in a strictly biological sense and I'm not trying to negatively comment on trans gendered people or whatever.

Freya_crescent said:
Why is it that any touch to your dick becomes uncomfortable after you blow your load? (I've always wondered this, though I was able to cum twice in one sitting - in the past -.)

Typically speaking for most males, during actual sex, during orgasm their body will amp up the sensitivity to keep the male from thrusting as much and keep them deeper inside their partner so that they deposit as much semen as deeply as they can without scraping any out. The glans of the penis will slightly swell and become more sensitive to touch.

This reaction is muted somewhat during hand masturbation because typically your hand isn't creating the same sensation to the glans as sex does. This is why a lot of guys can jerk pretty hard through their orgasms.

Afterwards the body goes through what's called the refractory period where the body is flooded with various chemicals to change from the energetic aroused sexual state to a lower energy costing resting state, where it is possible to create more healthy sperm cells to replace what was lost.

Evolutionary speaking humans have a lot of physical evidence towards small emotionally close polyamorous groups. The refractory period allows for the recovery of some of the necessary materials to have a productive ejaculation without allowing a male to use his flared glans head and foreskin to scrape out his own semen during a period where he's not likely able to replace it.

That said, the period is pretty short for most men compared to a lot of other animals. The average time needed is only about 30 minutes. And human females don't have strong signals for when they're ovulating or periods of heat like a lot of animals. This also keeps men around in small groups because they can't just roam in precisely on time, have sex, and then roam back out. This allows for small groups engaging in frequent, highly competitive (at least for semen placement) sex.

Furrin_Gok said:
Means you have horrible sensitivity there to start with. It grows more and more sensitive each time.

That's not necessarily true. Some men just don't produce enough of the chemicals that cause the refractory period. It doesn't always have anything to do with bad sensitivity.

Knotty_Curls said:
if that's the case, then men with short to nonexistent refractory periods would be superior.

I can bang both my bitch and yours but that's probably because I'm a degenerate tweaker, not because I'm favored by evolution

Human refractory periods are pretty short. Most animals don't have sex year round.

Furrin_Gok said:
The problem with that is that without communal child rearing, a communal sex pit is likely to result in single parents, which also means worse odds of survival. And yes, even with out "superior smarts" and tools, those odds aren't improved. Contrary to the MIB statement: People are smart, a person is a dumb, panicky, and dangerous animal.
See, alone, a person works to their own advances, but together they work for the community's. Unfortunately, "One's own" does not include the child's. Sure, there are some Persons out there who still work with the community despite being alone, and there are some People out there who work towards a more personal advancement, but the risk of harm to your child is greater when you're a Person rather than People.

Most of these small groups did bond together and did communally rear children though. The whole 'fuck you I got mine' and 'my family is an island' thing is a relatively recent phenomena. The situation happening with Millennials with living with and rearing children with extended family (ie the 30 year old married college educated but despite that 'Basement Family') is actually closer to how people had operated always than the recent and short lived 'nuclear family cut off from the entire world' where kids were out and alone in their own home at 18. Frankly because survival by yourself with kids in that small of a household has been impossible for most of human history.

Munkelzahn said:
does the same thing happen with clits
?

The clitoris and glans on the penis are mostly the same tissue, and react similarly. That said, women don't get the same chemical treatment that guys do. So the answer is.. maybe. Some women do have a refractory period too. Some have a 'clitoral only' refractory period. But some don't. Their response to sexual stimuli is more varied than it is for males.

How do I make my dick bigger

Freya_crescent said:
It's one of my fantasies to go through post-orgasm torture. It feels so good yet so bad, but I can't push myself too far with it, at least not alone.

Yeah. I always cut it short.

Furrin_Gok said:
The problem with that is that without communal child rearing, a communal sex pit is likely to result in single parents, which also means worse odds of survival.

In the United States today, poor black kids are extremely likely to have single parents, which doesn't reduce their chances of survival per se - more specifically it dramatically raises their dropout rate and the chance of a life of crime (which you could argue makes them more likely to die young.)

You're forgetting that humanity has overcome the vast majority of nature's rules through technology, particularly natural selection. It's only animals who don't know the rules who are strictly affected by them. Humans have different rules entirely.

RusterFuck said:
How do I make my dick bigger

click on those "make your dick 20cm longer" ads on pornhub or whatever to find out how

FibS said:
You're forgetting that humanity has overcome the vast majority of nature's rules through technology, particularly natural selection. It's only animals who don't know the rules who are strictly affected by them. Humans have different rules entirely.

Nah, I'm not forgetting that. I feel it's fairly obvious that humans don't very well follow nature. What I forgot was to mention that this was in reference to natural laws.

RusterFuck said:
How do I make my dick bigger

follow the Jay Naylor method and add 10 cm to your foreskin

Mutisija said:
click on those "make your dick 20cm longer" ads on pornhub or whatever to find out how

and hope you don't fall prey to that terrible porn site ad meme (as in, hope you don't get malware of some kind). though with decent antivirus/adblock/etc. that meme isn't that big a worry these days.

Furrin_Gok said:Contrary to the MIB statement: People are smart, a person is a dumb, panicky, and dangerous animal.

and after these past few years i seriously question the accuracy of such a statement. cause "people" certainly do seem to LOVE proving just how dumb they are.

treos said:
and after these past few years i seriously question the accuracy of such a statement. cause "people" certainly do seem to LOVE proving just how dumb they are.

Various things can cause differences in how it all works. In some areas, People are smart, in others People are dumb. When it comes to raising a kid, a group is usually better, as while the individual person can make poor decisions, chances are in a group somebody will be able to ensure things work out.

Freya_crescent said:
It's one of my fantasies to go through post-orgasm torture. It feels so good yet so bad, but I can't push myself too far with it, at least not alone.

I have wanted to try this as well but cant bring myself far either

Furrin_Gok said:
Various things can cause differences in how it all works. In some areas, People are smart, in others People are dumb. When it comes to raising a kid, a group is usually better, as while the individual person can make poor decisions, chances are in a group somebody will be able to ensure things work out.

This is quite true. Usually a business with one person doesn't workout because they can make a detrimental decision. I mean so can groups but there are factors to rule in. But using a kid is a great example because they get multiple views and learn from different angles. A person raising a kid alone can be panicky and can lead to bad decisions

Fenrick said:
Yeah. I always cut it short.

Is there anyway I can force (More) stimulation going solo? I don't have a partner atm

Freya_crescent said:
Is there anyway I can force (More) stimulation going solo? I don't have a partner atm

Discipline and practice I guess. I mean it would be hard not to do everything in your power to make your partner stop so it just may not be possible as far as I know.

I've trancended beyond just being a masterbator, I've become a master^2b8r. I'm a dude and at the top of my game i can squeeze out 5+ orgasms in 20 minutes

FurryMcFuzzball said:
I've trancended beyond just being a masterbator, I've become a master^2b8r. I'm a dude and at the top of my game i can squeeze out 5+ orgasms in 20 minutes

Orgasm or ejaculation?

I've never experienced that. My dick behaves weirdly, as I've been diagnosed with making way too many sex hormones. It wasn't until a few years ago that I learned most people go soft after an orgasm, or the usual refractory period.

DelurC said:
Orgasm or ejaculation?

Is possible to ejaculate without the orgasm, though it takes a lot of willpower and split second timing. That way you can go on indefinitely. So I have been told.

rhyolite said:
Is possible to ejaculate without the orgasm, though it takes a lot of willpower and split second timing. That way you can go on indefinitely. So I have been told.

I doubt it, your body takes time to produce more semen.

Furrin_Gok said:
I doubt it, your body takes time to produce more semen.

It does so the next few times you don't produce any.

rhyolite said:
Is possible to ejaculate without the orgasm, though it takes a lot of willpower and split second timing. That way you can go on indefinitely. So I have been told.

Furrin_Gok said:
I doubt it, your body takes time to produce more semen.

You can easily do this with prostate massage. I know this from personal experience.

parasprite said:
You can easily do this with prostate massage. I know this from personal experience.

Oh my!

parasprite said:
You can easily do this with prostate massage. I know this from personal experience.

I shall... look into that.

Fenrick said:
Huh? There's more to it than the physical feelings.

As a demisexual, this is very true...

I'm actually a virgin, but yeah. You get the idea.

treos said: and after these past few years i seriously question the accuracy of such a statement. cause "people" certainly do seem to LOVE proving just how dumb they are.

Actually you all got that quote wrong. "A(n individual) person is smart. People (in general) are dumb, panicky, dangerous animals and you know it."

rhyolite said:
Is possible to ejaculate without the orgasm, though it takes a lot of willpower and split second timing. That way you can go on indefinitely.

You've got it backwards. You can separate ejaculation and orgasm, but you want to keep repeating the orgasms not the ejaculations. The refactory period is only triggered when you ejaculate, not when you orgasm.

What notnobody said is correct. Our best guess is the refactory period is to stop you from fucking so you won't pull out your own semen. If there is another ready female nearby then the refactory period is greatly shortened. The more semen the female gets the more likely she'll reproduce, so it doesn't make sense for that trait to exist in females. Over-stimulation can still occur since the tissues are all very similar, but the chemical releases are different.

mrox said:
You've got it backwards. You can separate ejaculation and orgasm, but you want to keep repeating the orgasms not the ejaculations. The refactory period is only triggered when you ejaculate, not when you orgasm.

What notnobody said is correct. Our best guess is the refactory period is to stop you from fucking so you won't pull out your own semen. If there is another ready female nearby then the refactory period is greatly shortened. The more semen the female gets the more likely she'll reproduce, so it doesn't make sense for that trait to exist in females. Over-stimulation can still occur since the tissues are all very similar, but the chemical releases are different.

Just like me to do something different. :/

You can also ejaculate without erection, personal experience too D:

DelurC said:
You can also ejaculate without erection, personal experience too D:

Doesn't that happen from getting blueballsed too many consecutive times, or is that an urban legend?

Furrin_Gok said:
Doesn't that happen from getting blueballsed too many consecutive times, or is that an urban legend?

I guess it is because your hand wants to fap but brain does not.
So you don't get hard but ejaculate due to physical stimulation.

Furrin_Gok said:
Doesn't that happen from getting blueballsed too many consecutive times, or is that an urban legend?

The state of erection is a cardiovascular issue. It has only a very loose connection to sexual arousal (which affects the entire cardiovascular system.)

Men get erections without being aroused all the time, and they can get aroused without erections the same way.