So I probably ain't alone in this situation.
About a year ago I could live my everyday life like any other; Wake up in the morning and go to bed happy. I am 18 years old and I have been single all my life, neither have I had sex, though I didn't care at all. But a few months ago, something switched in my head. A sudden snap. I would guess it is called the biological clock. So now I have this sinking feeling in my chest like a heartache and I'm smiling less and less every day. I think I'm gonna go insane if something doesn't change. My natural lust is to get a girlfriend, but how come this changed so suddenly? And will it fix the problem? My heart say get a girl, but my mind says get more social and just be around friendly people, since I just sit at my computer all day after work.
I have no idea what I'm gonna do and there isn't much of an option to go to any clubs in the little town where I live just to get around people. Also there ain't a furry in a radius of miles, which I tought was the problem, but I can't really tell.
Man, I haven't been this depressed in years.

I'm much the same.
I live in backwoods Oregon.
No furries live within 100 miles. It's pretty shitty.

Calm down, dude. Think for a moment or two.

Let me help; There is sometimes an advert for a furry dating site (no, not a meet-and-screw site) on this site. Cruise around for a while, it might pop up, see where that leads you.

Sorry if this didn't help, I'll probably just shut up now.

Renard_Queenston said:
Calm down, dude. Think for a moment or two.

Let me help; There is sometimes an advert for a furry dating site (no, not a meet-and-screw site) on this site. Cruise around for a while, it might pop up, see where that leads you.

Sorry if this didn't help, I'll probably just shut up now.

That someone even just talks to me is a step up from just another day. I can start a conversation, but not keep going, so people just fade away. And the dating site; I live in Norway and the forum here has about 700 people, so that anyone of those are registered there would be unbelievable and if they even are close to my age. I could probably hide that I'm a furry and just go for anyone, but I couldn't have gone for long without telling. It has become such a big part of me that I would need years of therapy to change that.

The bottom line is to never, ever think about changing yourself for anyone or anything. Everything bad that could ever happen has a way out, trust me. And, just for thought, if anyone confronts you about this IRL, be it your parent(s), sibling(s) or whatever, do not lose your shit.

Renard_Queenston said:
The bottom line is to never, ever think about changing yourself for anyone or anything. Everything bad that could ever happen has a way out, trust me. And, just for thought, if anyone confronts you about this IRL, be it your parent(s), sibling(s) or whatever, do not lose your shit.

That's what I told myself a year ago ;) Anyway, I'mma get some sleep for now. Thanks.

BudFisk said:
I could probably hide that I'm a furry.

Then do it.
How hard would it be to resist the urge to sexually harass people while wearing a technicolor animal mascot suit?

Renard_Queenston said:
The bottom line is to never, ever think about changing yourself for anyone or anything. Everything bad that could ever happen has a way out, trust me. And, just for thought, if anyone confronts you about this IRL, be it your parent(s), sibling(s) or whatever, do not lose your shit.

THE TRUTH

BudFisk said:
So I probably ain't alone in this situation.
About a year ago I could live my everyday life like any other; Wake up in the morning and go to bed happy. I am 18 years old and I have been single all my life, neither have I had sex, though I didn't care at all. But a few months ago, something switched in my head. A sudden snap. I would guess it is called the biological clock. So now I have this sinking feeling in my chest like a heartache and I'm smiling less and less every day. I think I'm gonna go insane if something doesn't change. My natural lust is to get a girlfriend, but how come this changed so suddenly? And will it fix the problem? My heart say get a girl, but my mind says get more social and just be around friendly people, since I just sit at my computer all day after work.
I have no idea what I'm gonna do and there isn't much of an option to go to any clubs in the little town where I live just to get around people. Also there ain't a furry in a radius of miles, which I tought was the problem, but I can't really tell.
Man, I haven't been this depressed in years.

There's nothing unusual about being a virgin at 18 (most of my friends were). I'm in my mid-twenties and have never done anything with the opposite/same gender. But then I'm not a good example of normal since I have no desire to change that fact.

BudFisk said:
So I probably ain't alone in this situation.
About a year ago I could live my everyday life like any other; Wake up in the morning and go to bed happy. I am 18 years old and I have been single all my life, neither have I had sex, though I didn't care at all. But a few months ago, something switched in my head. A sudden snap. I would guess it is called the biological clock. So now I have this sinking feeling in my chest like a heartache and I'm smiling less and less every day. I think I'm gonna go insane if something doesn't change. My natural lust is to get a girlfriend, but how come this changed so suddenly? And will it fix the problem? My heart say get a girl, but my mind says get more social and just be around friendly people, since I just sit at my computer all day after work.
I have no idea what I'm gonna do and there isn't much of an option to go to any clubs in the little town where I live just to get around people. Also there ain't a furry in a radius of miles, which I tought was the problem, but I can't really tell.
Man, I haven't been this depressed in years.

I feel like that sometimes. I just remember that I'm alone and I'll die that way so I shrug it off :D Heh, just kidding.
Though yeah, I may be in the same condition as you, just don't listen to your dick (if you're a guy) and you're good to go

Xch3l said:
just don't listen to your dick (if you're a guy) and you're good to go

Wow, that made my day. I woke up just as shitty, but it was a sunny day, work went without any problems and now your words of wisdom. Thanks. I'll try to keep that point of view and hopefully keep it up for a while.

I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 10 years now(I'm 28).
I don't mind it in the least.

I realize that I'm a bit odd, but a while ago I did a cost/benefit analysis of being in a relationship vs. staying single and concluded that personally I am better off single.

It may be different for you because you may weight the costs and benefits differently than I did, but it's useful to remember that being single isn't all bad, there's good things about it too.

Renard_Queenston said:
furry dating site.

4th Grade stranger danger films come to mind.

Online dating sites are fucked. A girl in my sociology class was almost raped by someone she met through one.

BudFisk said:
Problems

Masturbate. That may sound like the creepiest comment in existence, but it still rings true. And being a virgin at 18 isn't too abnormal. I lost my virginity at 19.

And most long term relationships aren't focused on sex. I've had a girlfriend for 3 years, and we've screwed maybe 10 times. Most of it is just hanging out, talking, and just being with each other. But hey, if it's only a short term relationship, go for it.

Hammie said:
I haven't had a girlfriend in almost 10 years now(I'm 28).
I don't mind it in the least.

I realize that I'm a bit odd, but a while ago I did a cost/benefit analysis of being in a relationship vs. staying single and concluded that personally I am better off single.

It may be different for you because you may weight the costs and benefits differently than I did, but it's useful to remember that being single isn't all bad, there's good things about it too.

costs of wooing a girl are much higher then costs of keeping a girl :3
besides.. add in tax benefits and a brand new second income and it becomes much more economical to go for a girl and hitch in the long run.

As long as you don't have a kid.

If anyone are in the same position and want an update:
I started to talk people in second life. Mostly girls. Even though it ain't close to what I hope for in the future, it helps a lot. I think I'll be fine for a while now.

BudFisk said:
If anyone are in the same position and want an update:
I started to talk people in second life. Mostly girls.

In other words, G.I.R.L.S.

YOU DO NOT WANT A FURRY GIRLFRIEND
nonononono
But seriously, that is not something you share with people in real life. It's not a goddamn lifestyle. My girlfriend for two years still stays away from my browser history after the last time she went snooping.

I'm having issues too. I'm gay, so I don't find women sexually appealing at all, yet as of my 18th birthday some primal instinct in my mind keeps telling me that If I don't have children of my own, I will have failed as a human being. Gays can't donate sperm legally (at least not in Texas. Don't know about anywhere else) so that option is out. Pressure is even higher to have kids since I am the only one that can carry on the family name. But I don't like kids really, and I don't have the time, money, or patience to raise one right now. I just can't shut that little voice up, that stupid little instinct to breed and add to Earth's already overly inflated population. Why won't this stupid little tick go away?

FatherOfGray said:
I'm having issues too. I'm gay, so I don't find women sexually appealing at all, yet as of my 18th birthday some primal instinct in my mind keeps telling me that If I don't have children of my own, I will have failed as a human being. Gays can't donate sperm legally (at least not in Texas. Don't know about anywhere else) so that option is out. Pressure is even higher to have kids since I am the only one that can carry on the family name. But I don't like kids really, and I don't have the time, money, or patience to raise one right now. I just can't shut that little voice up, that stupid little instinct to breed and add to Earth's already overly inflated population. Why won't this stupid little tick go away?

Ugh, kids. I don't have much patience to raise a child.
Sometimes I have the same bug that says to me "huurrr ya get to reproduce nao, yo!" I'd just do it for recreational purposes, but if I screw it… well, fuck it… I'll just deal with it and accept my unfortunate fate.

Spess_Muhreen said:
YOU DO NOT WANT A FURRY GIRLFRIEND
nonononono
But seriously, that is not something you share with people in real life. It's not a goddamn lifestyle. My girlfriend for two years still stays away from my browser history after the last time she went snooping.

I completely disagree, in my opinion a relationship is put at risk by differences between people and made safer by that which they have in common. Also, for me, if I were to ever have a relationship, by far the greatest pleasure would be having someone that I could reveal the hidden but oh so important part of my identity too (that and getting them to wear a fursuit).

Aurali said:
costs of wooing a girl are much higher then costs of keeping a girl :3
besides.. add in tax benefits and a brand new second income and it becomes much more economical to go for a girl and hitch in the long run.

As long as you don't have a kid.

Right up until she decides you make enough to support both of you, and wants to be a "homemaker".

Hammie said:
Right up until she decides you make enough to support both of you, and wants to be a "homemaker".

You are supposed to stay clear of greedy bitches.

NotMeNotYou said:
You are supposed to stay clear of greedy bitches.

I do, by staying single.

No way to tell ahead of time if they're greedy bitches.

Hammie said:
I do, by staying single.

No way to tell ahead of time if they're greedy bitches.

There should be signs along the way.

Interesting (at least to me) this whole "homemaker" thing is nearly unheard of here in germany, each parent gets a year free for the first two years of the child, but that was it, 80% of all couples are with both parents working and of those 20% half of them would like to work, but can't find something.

Everybody is expected to work if they are capable of, even our cripples work, often by either producing small parts, wooden toys for children, or repairing things like bikes.

Spess_Muhreen said:
YOU DO NOT WANT A FURRY GIRLFRIEND
nonononono

Why? If she acts normal and don't have piercings and/or tatoos all over her face and happen to be furry as well, then I don't see a problem.

FatherOfGray said:
Gays can't donate sperm legally (at least not in Texas. Don't know about anywhere else)

post #149719

Fucking Texas.

SirAntagonist said:
post #149719

Fucking Texas.

At least business is booming.

NotMeNotYou said:
There should be signs along the way.

Interesting (at least to me) this whole "homemaker" thing is nearly unheard of here in germany, each parent gets a year free for the first two years of the child, but that was it, 80% of all couples are with both parents working and of those 20% half of them would like to work, but can't find something.

Everybody is expected to work if they are capable of, even our cripples work, often by either producing small parts, wooden toys for children, or repairing things like bikes.

The real greedy bitches hide it until after marriage, that way you're stuck with it.
Either you put up with it, or lose half your stuff in a divorce.

Single, it's the only safe option.

Hammie said:
The real greedy bitches hide it until after marriage, that way you're stuck with it.
Either you put up with it, or lose half your stuff in a divorce.

Single, it's the only safe option.

Once again, germany ftw, the only things assumed to belong to both parties are things and money acquired/earned while married, got the car before? She can't touch it.
Also, marriage contracts.

NotMeNotYouMobile said:
Once again, germany ftw, the only things assumed to belong to both parties are things and money acquired/earned while married, got the car before? She can't touch it.
Also, marriage contracts.

yeah, that would be nice.
The problem with marriage contracts(or pre-nup) is the girl inevitably pulls out the "What? You don't believe that we'll be together forever? Don't you love me?" argument.
Which is our world of more than 50% divorce rate is a load of horse shit, but they still say it.