Topic: What does your family think/know about your porn tastes?

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Last night I had a bad dream where my parents publicly ridiculed me when they found out my porn habits, but then when I woke up I remembered to myself, "Hey wait a minute, I'm 20 years old, living with my girlfriend and in college, I can do whatever the hell I want now." It got me to thinking, what are your situations with your family on what you like sexually? Do they know you like furry porn? If so, what do they think of it/ what would they most likely think of it if they knew?

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They know nothing about my personal tastes, let alone porn...

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They're pretty supportive.
Last night I showed my little sister a drawing of a pony shoving a raccoon up her arsehole, and then she started crying, but generally they're pretty nice.

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Pretty sure they know I'm bi. As for the literal question in the title.. well, I clicked on this thinking 'What the hell, OP. No.' If they ever ask I'll tell them, I guess ( I definitely respect the skill of asking awkward questions in full awareness that they're awkward.)
. Not a big deal, but feels awkward nonetheless, so I'd probably do it in 'you don't fuck with this' mode, which I'm told that I have. My sister probably has some idea that furry stuff is vaguely interesting to me, pretty much by accident -- and that's pretty accurate I guess, 'vaguely interesting'.

*shrug* I just don't think tastes, sexual or otherwise, are anything worth bothering anyone (including me) with much. So much bullshit and arbitrariness involved, for decidedly temporary satisfaction..

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We're talking about fetishes.
The one thing that may ruin a relationship faster than "I murdered someone today".

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I think that most families don't know or want to know about any individual member's kinks. Its better that way.
Sadly, through an unhappy accident and the fact that I'm the family IT person, I know what my dad's tastes are. He's so painfully vanilla. But I doubt any of them know much about what pushes my buttons, nor will they ever.

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Tokaido said:
I think that most families don't know or want to know about any individual member's kinks. Its better that way.
Sadly, through an unhappy accident and the fact that I'm the family IT person, I know what my dad's tastes are. He's so painfully vanilla. But I doubt any of them know much about what pushes my buttons, nor will they ever.

This.

Text wall time.

I remember when I was ~14 or so and my friend had a computer with Windows XP (pre-SP1 iirc) and a ton of viruses and popups that were constantly kicking him out of Starcraft. So naturally I look at the search history and it turns out that his dad really really liked milfs.

Something similar happened with my family's computer a couple years later. I turned on the family internet spying thingy on Windows (I don't remember what it's called offhand) to see what my little brother was going to to get all this malware since I assumed he was just installing things at random. Well it turns out that my stepdad (who can barely use a computer) was looking through a lot of random websites searching for porn. His habits weren't very interesting, but he stumbled across pornhub and seemed to stick with that, so I decided to just clean the computer up and leave it at that. A couple of weeks later I came home at 2 in the morning carrying an ottoman I had found and saw him masturbating through the sliding glass door (where the computer was) and I couldn't help but think "I know what he's masturbating to" and decided to leave the furniture in the yard and come back in half an hour or so.

My dad's obsessed with cartoons and has sent me r34 on multiple occasions, including a pile of pony pictures at one point. He's not very subtle about his tastes, but fortunately he seems to dislike hardcore porn. Funny story, he has this hanging on his wall, he's straight, but he's somehow managed to convince himself that it's a dildo, even after me trying to inform him several times that it was, in fact, a cumming penis.

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parasprite said:
My dad's obsessed with cartoons and has sent me r34 on multiple occasions, including a pile of pony pictures at one point.

Funny story, he has this hanging on his wall

That seems pretty... is weird the right word?

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Peekaboo said:
That seems pretty... is weird the right word?

I've gotten everything from "Huh." to "Whoa, your dad's awesome!" >.>

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parasprite said:
I've gotten everything from "Huh." to "Whoa, your dad's awesome!" >.>

But have you gotten in the emotion of "Huh, your dad's awesome"? :P

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Xch3l said:
But have you gotten in the emotion of "Huh, your dad's awesome"? :P

I would think that would fall within those two variables... but no not that one specifically.

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"Mom, Dad. I have a confession to make. I look at Furry porn."
" I don't want to know what you're looking at and I don't care."

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Do you want to know that your parents are into scat porn (or whatever you happen to have blacklisted)?

Probably not. Don't ask, don't tell.

(I do know what my grandfather was into, though. He used to peddle porn during the war, and I inherited his vintage collection.)

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Genjar said:
Do you want to know that your parents are into scat porn (or whatever you happen to have blacklisted)?

Probably not. Don't ask, don't tell.

"Hey parents. Want to rule out what I'm not into and figure out what I am into by process of elimination?"

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Unfortunately my family is very religious. Porn is a no-no for them so i gotta be stealthy about it. Of course, they've probably caught wind and know what im doing but choose not to bring it up.

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I don't need to tell them to know they would say that what I watch is absolutely disgusting

However I know someone on my house is fond of Spanish porn, and I mean Porn from Spain, lol, I would say it's almost like a shock site or a rather specific kink, I mean Naked Spanish Women on their 40's

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NoctemWerewolf said:

I don't need to tell them to know they would say that what I watch is absolutely disgusting

However I know someone on my house is fond of Spanish porn, and I mean Porn from Spain, lol, I would say it's almost like a shock site or a rather specific kink, I mean Naked Spanish Women on their 40's

I don't get why would anybody be interested in our porn. It doesn't have tentacles whatsoever.

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My Mother, my sister and some other ppl from my familiy know that I like Furry stuff. Can't say if they imagine porn of the rated S/Q pics I have in my room or on my PC.

But since nobody with IT knowledge gets on my PC I can be sure that nobody found a certain folder

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D4rk said:

But since nobody with IT knowledge gets on my PC I can be sure that nobody found a certain folder

C:\Windows\System32\Drivers\rundll32-2.dll.iso

328 GB

"This must be the heart of Windows"

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D4rk said:
My Mother, my sister and some other ppl from my familiy know that I like Furry stuff. Can't say if they imagine porn of the rated S/Q pics I have in my room or on my PC.

But since nobody with IT knowledge gets on my PC I can be sure that nobody found a certain folder

I live on my own, no one but me uses my PC, and yet I STILL stash ask my porn in a TrueCrypt folder, lol. Anyone else?

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Tokaido said:
I live on my own, no one but me uses my PC, and yet I STILL stash ask my porn in a TrueCrypt folder, lol. Anyone else?

I keep it on a separate user account that's password protected (which also happens to be my admin account that I use to fix things) because I got sick of things showing up in spotlight. In retrospect, using my admin user account to browse porn is a horrible idea in practice.

Fortunately I run OS X so I can remain smug until I accidentally install MacKeeper or something.

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Yeah, just using a filesystem that nobody who isn't reasonably tech-savvy has a clue how to access is a pretty effective measure. Someone plugs my external HDD into a Windows machine, they're probably gonna see big fat nothing, because Windows doesn't come with Ext4 support by default.

I have a few layers of obfuscation, all of which also serve an actual separate function:

  • Filesystem is ext4. I'd like to use btrfs, but if I have to run a rescue operation, getting a livecd that supports btrfs well is still much harder than getting one that handles ext4.
  • Frequently-accessed folder names are lojban cmavo, or one-letter abbreviations of lojban cmavo, because English is crappy at abbreviations. (example: Stuff I draw goes in 'x/', which is an abbreviation of xraci'a meaning "artist | art | art medium | art implement | art subject")
  • Using a minimalistic, keyboard-oriented window manager* -- AwesomeWM, with Kupfer as a launcher.
  • oh.. yeah, and using Colemak keyboard layout rather than QWERTY, while, as recommended, leaving the keys in place (so the keyboard appears physically to be a QWERTY keyboard)

Encryption -- meh, I've considered it, but I'm concerned about getting locked out of my own data by forgetting the password. And my ext hd is not all that fast, so I don't want to add more overhead on top of that.

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savageorange said:
Someone plugs my external HDD into a Windows machine, they're probably gonna see big fat nothing

  • Not to be confused with "big FAT nothing".

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my fam knows I look at furry porn but they don't know about the vore : )

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Moon_Moon said:
As long as they get grandchildren someday they don't care.

Even if they're freaky sparklefox hybrids?

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My parents at the very least know I look at porn. Anything more than that, I don't know, but that's probably because both me and my family are open to a lot of things. Except incest. Screw incest. If you want to ruin your genetic material, go jump into a vat of acid, instead.
Well, okay, it's not that strong of a hatred, but I'd certainly shun them if they started the relationship knowing they were related.

Now, my Grandmother, while still very openminded to things, is also big into religion... So, who knows, maybe she'd be okay with it, or maybe she'd think furries were the old mythological Furries of hell. What religion does that come from, anyways?

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Furrin_Gok said:
My parents at the very least know I look at porn. Anything more than that, I don't know, but that's probably because both me and my family are open to a lot of things. Except incest. Screw incest. If you want to ruin your genetic material, go jump into a vat of acid, instead.
Well, okay, it's not that strong of a hatred, but I'd certainly shun them if they started the relationship knowing they were related.

Now, my Grandmother, while still very openminded to things, is also big into religion... So, who knows, maybe she'd be okay with it, or maybe she'd think furries were the old mythological Furries of hell. What religion does that come from, anyways?

You mean the occult? That branched off Catholicism with the church occusing people of worshipping false prophets such as Baphomet.

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Ah yes. For a moment I wondered what the heck "furries of hell" meant, but it's true that many demons could be considered furry.

For instance, at least half of the demons of Ars Goetia have a feral or anthro form..

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Furrin_Gok said:
... or maybe she'd think furries were the old mythological Furries of hell. What religion does that come from, anyways?

Is that where the whole "furfags yiff in hell" thing comes from? :P

But to answer your question, I'm not sure where the original "demons are sometimes anthropomorphic animals" thing came from, but hell was depicted that way in a lot of old art. More often than not it was goats, but other creatures cropped up as well.
Source: Art History classes, fascinating stuff... for me anyway.

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Let's see... my most relevant experiences to the OP would be the times when my dad and friends discovered my poorly hidden porn. That might not have been a problem if the porn was mundane and not illicit. Being that it was, as I believe I described in a much earlier post, "the most universally reviled fetish", my dad told me on two occasions to delete it as I was closing the car door at school and never mentioned it again. That was perhaps more uncomfortable than a direct confrontation.

As for my friends, they actually manually browsed my PC one night and found my small collection in some 10th-level directory. I immediately distanced myself from it and suggested that it "must have been" someone they had ostracized from the clique for a related offense. They bought the idea and maintained the status quo. My only saving grace was that I was around 13 at the time (for both discoveries). That porn has probably been my deepest shame.

Other than that, I was pretty sure my remaining childhood friend silently walked in when I had a furry's horsecock cumshot blown up fullscreen. If he did, then he didn't react to it and said nothing.

I've been exposed in some capacity to the pornographic pursuits of both my parents, everyone in my childhood group of friends, my best childhood friend's mom, my remaining childhood friend in the present (props for the massive SaHa torrent), and the remaining friend's stepfather. And my younger cousin said her friends wanted her to watch Boku No Pico with them LOL. She claimed not to know what kind of anime it or yaoi was, and she didn't seem deterred when I told her it was "little boy porn". Props for that too.

On the one hand, I think some sort of symbiotic porn-sharing, enabling relationship would be cool. My brain naturally wants to lean in that direction. On the other hand, I know that's just wishful thinking.

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Actually, guys, what I meant is that back in high school, I heard that there was a type of demon known as Furrie, no actual relation to furries, it just had a name that happened to be the same.

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My younger sister found some of my pain play stuff once, but she can't say shit because she crashed my computer while browsing hentai.

Furrin_Gok said:
Actually, guys, what I meant is that back in high school, I heard that there was a type of demon known as Furrie, no actual relation to furries, it just had a name that happened to be the same.

...The Furies?

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SirAntagonist said:
My younger sister found some of my pain play stuff once, but she can't say shit because she crashed my computer while browsing hentai.

LOL. Why is your younger sister even on there?

SirAntagonist said:
...The Furies?

That sounds like it, yeah.

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Furrin_Gok said:
LOL. Why is your younger sister even on there?
That sounds like it, yeah.

OOOOooooohhhh, furies, got it.

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my mom keeps opening my packages from bad dragon and makes fun of me continually

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My family all knows about my pony stuff, which I try very little to hide. (See the Chrysalis body pillow on my bed atm)

But they don't know about the rest of the furry stuff.

(See Hardblush, Onta, or my blatant obsession with femboy/traps)

My elder sister is currently the only one to know that I have been with both males and females. The rest of my family has never been told as my father is (sort of) Anti-gay, he currently believes my (LESBIAN) Sister is "Faking" it for attention despite having been dating girls for 7 years now. And believes it's nothing more then attention seeking behavior. So I keep my own sometimes bisexual tendency's under wraps. I don't think he knows, but then again I've had boys over to his house before so you never know if he's seen/heard stuff (Winky face?)

My family (Besides my father) "Approves" of my MLP stuff, and my mother has even told me some of my sexual drawings are good. But we don't make it a constant topic as of course it's somewhat awkward.

TL:DR, my family doesn't care.

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IMO Would you ask your parents what kind of porn they are into? No? Then don't tell them the stuff you're into. Keep that in private

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TheHuskyK9 said:
IMO Would you ask your parents what kind of porn they are into? No? Then don't tell them the stuff you're into. Keep that in private

Well it's not exactly on purpose for most people.

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TheHuskyK9 said:
IMO Would you ask your parents what kind of porn they are into? No? Then don't tell them the stuff you're into. Keep that in private

Yeah, what Cutedementia said. Accidents happen...

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Durandal said:
Yeah, what Cutedementia said. Accidents happen...

"Shit mom don't look in that cabinet!"

"IS THIS A DOG?!"

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TheHuskyK9 said:
IMO Would you ask your parents what kind of porn they are into? No? Then don't tell them the stuff you're into. Keep that in private

It's somewhat cultural, somewhat specific to the family.

Some families are comfortable with talking about porn, safe sex, penis size, etc. Some families are comfortable taking a bath, being naked in general, taking a shit while someone else is showering, and say "check this out" when it's unusually large. Some families blush if you so much as say the word "penis" with the males preferring to look up when standing at the urinal to make sure they don't have to look at their own anatomy (because that would be a sin or too gay or something).

Most families have their own culture specific to just them and you would be surprised to see the unwritten guidelines they end up with when you're not there.

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Even though i always had my own computer i used to be paranoid in any occasion that someone else might use my computer while i wasn't there, i've used to hide my image stash inside game folders on steamapps compressed on .7z files with a password.

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Just_Another_Dragon said:
Even though i always had my own computer i used to be paranoid in any occasion that someone else might use my computer while i wasn't there, i've used to hide my image stash inside game folders on steamapps compressed on .7z files with a password.

Smart, I used to hide them in a file called "Bluetooth device" in regular "program files"

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Just_Another_Dragon said:
Even though i always had my own computer i used to be paranoid in any occasion that someone else might use my computer while i wasn't there, i've used to hide my image stash inside game folders on steamapps compressed on .7z files with a password.

7z is absolutely amazing for certain things.

every_mario_game_ever_made_thru_2007_including_thousands_of_mods.7z

2.2 MB

"Well that seems a bit small...but let's see unpack it to see what's in th—"

1.7 GB

"...!"

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savageorange said:
Yeah, just using a filesystem that nobody who isn't reasonably tech-savvy has a clue how to access is a pretty effective measure. Someone plugs my external HDD into a Windows machine, they're probably gonna see big fat nothing, because Windows doesn't come with Ext4 support by default.

I have a few layers of obfuscation, all of which also serve an actual separate function:

  • Filesystem is ext4. I'd like to use btrfs, but if I have to run a rescue operation, getting a livecd that supports btrfs well is still much harder than getting one that handles ext4.
  • Frequently-accessed folder names are lojban cmavo, or one-letter abbreviations of lojban cmavo, because English is crappy at abbreviations. (example: Stuff I draw goes in 'x/', which is an abbreviation of xraci'a meaning "artist | art | art medium | art implement | art subject")
  • Using a minimalistic, keyboard-oriented window manager* -- AwesomeWM, with Kupfer as a launcher.
  • oh.. yeah, and using Colemak keyboard layout rather than QWERTY, while, as recommended, leaving the keys in place (so the keyboard appears physically to be a QWERTY keyboard)

Encryption -- meh, I've considered it, but I'm concerned about getting locked out of my own data by forgetting the password. And my ext hd is not all that fast, so I don't want to add more overhead on top of that.

How about your e621 or email password?

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mrnotsosafeforwork said:
How about your e621 or email password?

1. Set password to a string of 16 random characters.
2. Send email to self with the title "security q old bank acc" and the content as the string above
3. Put it in an archive folder (literally "archive" if your using gmail/icloud/probably others).
4. Extra obfuscation accomplished.

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TheHuskyK9 said:
IMO Would you ask your parents what kind of porn they are into? No? Then don't tell them the stuff you're into. Keep that in private

Neh, I stopped caring. If they ever catch me browsing or doing Eros' deed, I'll have to say it. Sure, it'll be an awkward thing to explain but until then. (Don't ask, don't tell)

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Furrin_Gok said:
LOL. Why is your younger sister even on there?

Her laptop was broken and I let her borrow my backup. She was 18 at the time, so I assumed it was for schoolwork.

Just_Another_Dragon said:
Even though i always had my own computer i used to be paranoid in any occasion that someone else might use my computer while i wasn't there, i've used to hide my image stash inside game folders on steamapps compressed on .7z files with a password.

Just create desktop folders with important-sounding names like "admin" and "drivers" and password lock them.

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mrnotsosafeforwork said:
How about your e621 or email password?

Don't store that stuff in a mere encrypted filesystem.
Any filesystem that is mounted (ie. you can read the contents freely right now) is vulnerable to eavesdropping [read the contents out of memory when it's opened; read the file itself directly, if the process has permissions for that]. An encrypted filesystem only keeps out people while it's not mounted.

I use KeePassX for passwords and other sensitive info, its database is fairly heavily encrypted. Since the file is not a filesystem, that would need to be mounted in order to read it, this is much safer than an encrypted filesystem can ever be. (Which is not to say there are no exploits. But programs like KeePassX are carefully designed to minimize attack vectors)

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Y'know, my former supervisor probably knows I'm a bit of a devient, having talked about hyenas and their pseudopenises. He's always talking about unusual things himself, though, so maybe he's a furry too?

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Parents don't approve, but they're not going to make a stink about it because I'm an adult that makes her own decisions.

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They just look at me as if I am gay or a transvestite. But after a while they just figure it's one of my mental disabilities and kind of ignore it.

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Furrin_Gok said:
Y'know, my former supervisor probably knows I'm a bit of a devient, having talked about hyenas and their pseudopenises. He's always talking about unusual things himself, though, so maybe he's a furry too?

You know, I thought it was unusual when my dad had asked me "do eggs really come out of a chicken's butts" and I was able to explain what a cloaca was to him, but I can't imagine having an actual job where that could come up in conversation.

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Kayla-Na said:
Parents don't approve, but they're not going to make a stink about it because I'm an adult that makes her own decisions.

Lol, do your parents know you're really well known too? Always kinda wondered that about popular furry artists

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parasprite said:
You know, I thought it was unusual when my dad had asked me "do eggs really come out of a chicken's butts" and I was able to explain what a cloaca was to him, but I can't imagine having an actual job where that could come up in conversation.

Ranchers. The kids come up and ask "Do eggs really come from chicken butts?" and they just laugh and say "Just about," but curious adults might want the more detailed answer.

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