I'm not talking about rape: I'm just talking about somebody who's willing but either annoyed or pissed off. Kind of like the line in that song, "The sex is so much better when you're mad at me.".

An example that comes to mind is the pictures on here of Pinkie Pie and Pinkamena, both in the same pose, but Pinkie of course is grinning and 'Mena is just looking at the camera like "dude, really?". And the one with Pinkamena is the one I like looking at more.

What's the psychology behind this? Is it just some sort of weird control thing, like I want to feel awesome because even when someone's pissed they'll still fuck me? Or is something else going on?

Is this related to "hate sex"? post #199523

Munkelzahn said:
Is this related to "hate sex"? post #199523

Kinda yeah, but I was thinking more like two people actually in a relationship, but one is pissed about something but will still let the other fuck them.

Or maybe it's somebody that just isn't interested or in the mood for it, but will still let you fuck them, like maybe Jessica is best friends with Bill, and Jessica thinks you're a total moron, but Bill likes to hang out with you and it's your birthday, so she'll fuck you as a favor to Bill.

I know, it's weird...It's so weird.

Munkelzahn said:
Is this related to "hate sex"? post #199523

Yeah, she probably likes it ruff.

Sounds like the most functional form of emotional catharsis I could imagine.
Is that why?

Maybe it's hot for you. And this thread seems like a little tmi :/

ArdesCadaver said:
Sounds like the most functional form of emotional catharsis I could imagine.
Is that why?

post #319448

Just saying not everyone likes to read about how someone loves to get fucked by an angry person.

For the record, I'm an antisocial loser who will never be fucked by anyone unless it's for a couple hundred bucks per hour. :P This is just to try to understand something about myself that only recently did I actually notice consciously.

ArdesCadaver said:
Sounds like the most functional form of emotional catharsis I could imagine.
Is that why?

This. Succinct and to the point.

Well, when you get angry, you're "heated" and when you're "heated", you're hot and when you're hot, you attract someone, and when you attract someone, you have sex and when you have sex, you sweat and the reason why you sweat is because you're "heated"

And that is why angry sex is such a hot idea :)

ArdesCadaver said:
Sounds like the most functional form of emotional catharsis I could imagine.
Is that why?

furrypickle said:
This. Succinct and to the point.

So...it's about working out some sort of emotion on the other person?

Angry sex usually refers to the female being angry. This means, she is the aggressive one. That adds excitement. Also, she's angry, so she's a little bit scary, but sex is involved, so it's a good scary. Add some extra adrenaline and dopamine, and you have a recipe for a good time.

Fear leads to anger...
Anger leads to hate...
Hate leads to sexytimes...

Foobaria said:
So...it's about working out some sort of emotion on the other person?

Sort of. Catharsis is all about releasing an intense emotional experience through some sort of external physical one. And the process of releasing it can give a sort of natural high.

Anger is an intense emotional experience. Sex is an intense physical pursuit. By combining them you could achieve emotional catharsis. So you might start off angry at each other, channel that intensity through some really passionate/rough/intense sex, and then through orgasm it's released. Result: you no longer feel so mad, but you know the sex was intense and fantastic. So the emotional catharsis enhanced the sex, making the whole kink very intensely rewarding.

But of course you could have a completely different reason you like angry sex. It could be because it lets your partner be bossy or aggressive. A lot of people like partners who take charge. Or at the very least, partners who aren't afraid to tell you what they want in bed, where they want it, etc It's sexy when someone can match your enthusiasm instead of lay there while you do all the work.
Or it could be because then you wouldn't feel like you had to hold back in bed, and that makes for rough, intense, primal sex.
It could even be roundabout catharsis showing up: if you have something that irritates you in real life, so you fantasize/masturbate about angry sex which would provide a temptingly positive way to release it instead of continuing to feel it eat at you. Leaving you with a positive high instead of feeling irritated anymore. Sometimes your subconscious can be remarkably clever like that.

But for every kink, there's at least half a dozen reasons people like it. So you could read other people's theories to see if something sounds right, but in the end only you know why you like it. So if you haven't figured out your reason yet, then just keep looking and thinking. Sexuality is a hard thing to pin down.

Mainly due to the fact "angry sex" if better when your mate doesn't do the dishes all day and you get to 'take' it out on them in a somewhat safe action that may or may not lead to things braking when one of you goes 'down'. Thought i'd post something funny :D

In real life execution, it's probably the worst possible thing you could do to get out of a spat.

In pictures and as a concept, it's super sexy fun times.

SirAntagonist said:
In pictures and as a concept, it's super sexy fun times.

Not always... post #267600