Outside of people on this site and other anonymous websites (reddit, 4chan, tumblr etc.) how many, if any, people know you are sexually attracted to furries? For me, literally no living being who knows my real name knows this. How about you? How did you tell them? How did they react? Why did you feel like letting them know? Just curious.

basedanon said:
Outside of people on this site and other anonymous websites (reddit, 4chan, tumblr etc.) how many, if any, people know you are sexually attracted to furries? For me, literally no living being who knows my real name knows this. How about you? How did you tell them? How did they react? Why did you feel like letting them know? Just curious.

I'm not. Makes life easier in some respect.

No one knows, one of the reasons I made an account was to not take this secret to the tomb

i don't get why people do that "coming out of the closet" kind of thing. i mean, what, does it make you feel better about some aspect of your life when you tell others about it or something?

correct me if i'm wrong but theres probably 3 main possible reactions you can expect from this:

1. the people you "come out" to will turn around and hate and shun you (hello bigotry).

2. they won't really care oneway or the other and just go on with they're lives.

or 3. they'll be accepting of your lifestyle choice and show support for you choice at "coming out".

i've never done this for a few reasons.

1. i think it's dumb, and don't feel like risking a negative reaction (seen how that can sometimes go on youtube. it's not a good experience.).

2. it's not anyones business what my preferences are so i don't go around telling people unless they ask or it comes up in conversation. and

3. so, i like pics of anthro animals...who cares? it's just another form of art (well, the explicit part of could be debatable. is it art or just porn?) and the characters in said pics are fictional.

tl;dr who cares? it's not anyones business unless they ask you about it and even then, it's up to you if yon want to "come out" and tell them or not.

in fact, now that i think of it. i'm fairly certain i'd lose at least 1 irl friend if i ever did this (though i would largely blame the more religious, church going upbringing. homophobia does no one any good.).

You aren't "In the closet" if you're simply omitting it due to not being asked. If somebody asks, sure, I'll let them know, yeah, furry art is often neat, and I enjoy browsing it. Yes, I even consider myself a furry. It's only if you're purposefully telling them you aren't a furry, that you don't enjoy looking at the art, that you are "in the closet," at which point you're only hurting yourself.

treos said:
closet stuff

I'm not entirely sure. Are you confused about why someone would come out of the closet in general? That is, why someone who's homosexual would come out of the closet? Or are you only confused why furries specifically would come out of the closet?

I can explain the former if you're confused about it. I can maybe explain the latter too, but either way, I'd need to know which of the two (or both) you don't understand.

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More on topic! I don't really consider myself a furry, but I am out of the closet about being a zoophile to a few people. A couple of friends (one of whom found out from stalking me onlline, the rest I've told voluntarily). At least one friend who I originally met online I've also now met in person, so I think that counts to some extent as well. I'm also out to a few members of my family - namely, my brother, mother, and one cousin.

In order to not make this massive, I have to give a really condensed set of answers to your questions. Reactions were generally mixed-to-supportive. My mother reacted the worst at first, but is pretty accepting now. Generally the main emotion leading up to that sort of thing is nervousness. Major anxiety. And then relief once things went as I expected. As for how I let them know, that's rather diverse, but prior to that I've generally discussed the issue in abstract to gauge what they think of the issue to know if I even want to come out to them or not, and to know what to expect if I do.

I felt like letting them know, generally, because I consider that aspect to be an important part of my character. The issue is important to me, and I even consider myself an activist of sorts on it. Furthermore, to remain in the closet I was forced to lie when questions would come up about potential girlfriends / boyfriends or plans for having children or whatever else. Which, being forced to lie about something you find important is not a good feeling.

There are a lot of other reasons too, but that's the main set. As I said, had to cut my answers short to keep this reasonable in length.

Only one (former) friend in real life and most global friends from Steam know. My sister knows it partially.

It's a thing I keep mostly to myself really. The general stereotype around furries is too weird, negative and simply misunderstood.

im not sexually attracted to anything because im ace as hell so, ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

i'm into humans

this whole furry thing is a hobby

The whole public knows I have only one testicle, so I don't care anymore.

http://i.imgur.com/sPo0qe8.png

Clawdragons said:
I'm not entirely sure. Are you confused about why someone would come out of the closet in general? That is, why someone who's homosexual would come out of the closet? Or are you only confused why furries specifically would come out of the closet?

I can explain the former if you're confused about it. I can maybe explain the latter too, but either way, I'd need to know which of the two (or both) you don't understand.

it's not that i'm confused. it's that i simply don't see a reason or feel a need to go out of my way and proclaim to the world that i like furry stuff or am gay (not that it'd be untrue of course). and it's not like i'm hiding those facts about me or anything, i just don't see a point in bringing it up unless i have a reason to or if someone asks is curious/suspicious, or it just comes up during conversations.

it's like how you might see someone randomly appear in a chat somewhere and announce they're gay to everyone for no apparent reason. yeah, ok, good for you *goes back to what i was doing beforehand*.

online, a good number of people i've met over the years know but irl i think just my aunt (my uncle...might know but if he does he never really says anything about it).

edit: oh and if your relatives are strongly religious and react rather coldly to you "coming out" you might want to be careful. saw this really unpleasant video pop up on my recommendations on youtubes front page one day. i would say the kid did the right thing by getting far away from that "loving" (yeah right >.> grandmother says she loves him in the 1st clip then tries to physically assault him in the 3rd. yeah, that's some real nice love alright, huh, granny?) family of his.

My brother might know, but I try to keep it as personal as I can. It's just my personal space, something that no one should know or invade.

treos said:
saw this really unpleasant video pop up on my recommendations on youtubes front page one day. i would say the kid did the right thing by getting far away from that "loving" (yeah right >.> grandmother says she loves him in the 1st clip then tries to physically assault him in the 3rd. yeah, that's some real nice love alright, huh, granny?) family of his.

the "love" of "god" in action....faith through works and all that shit – humanity can be so fucking disheartening sometimes, and to call people like that 'animals'; no, just....no. not even worthy of association of an animus. some miscreants are just dried husks of a fasces – just another stick in the bundle, throw the flowers into the fire and burn with them

Nobody knows. Couldn't even imagine what they'd think. Why do people even hate furries so much? I'm just fapping, not bothering anyone else.

Knotty_Curls said:
i'm into humans

this whole furry thing is a hobby

^

Well my dad is aware I looked on this site/furry porn and actually said "well better than real porn" as far as I remember. Although he doesn't agree with Furries. Anyway, I pretty much keep the whole furry thing to myself! Humans still arouse me!

ok, maybe the title was a dumb choice, but I didn't mean that its something you should just tell someone out of the blue, i meant like coming up in conversation or something.

treos said:
it's not that i'm confused. it's that i simply don't see a reason or feel a need to go out of my way and proclaim to the world that i like furry stuff or am gay (not that it'd be untrue of course). and it's not like i'm hiding those facts about me or anything, i just don't see a point in bringing it up unless i have a reason to or if someone asks is curious/suspicious, or it just comes up during conversations.

Well to be fair, that means you aren't in the closet. You just aren't talkative on the issue, which is a different thing, and not quite exactly what we're talking about here.

As for those who proclaim to the world... Well, I'm not sure about that actually. I would guess they're trying to make a statement in one way or another - which may be valuable. I've read something about people tending to become more tolerant if they specifically know of a gay family member or friend, so there might be some value in it. Otherwise I don't know.

Phylax said:
and to call people like that 'animals'; no, just....no. not even worthy of association of an animus. some miscreants are just dried husks of a fasces – just another stick in the bundle, throw the flowers into the fire and burn with them

More like just another misguided jerk. Definitely a horrible way to act but people commit far worse acts of depravity every day. What she did was terrible, I won't argue that, but I doubt she's some irredeemably evil monster. Just think you went a little too far, there.

My best friend, but he tells no one else about it. Sometimes he makes furry jokes about me when I'm hanging out with him and I laugh sometimes.

I don't see why you would think of yourself as in the closet. Like.. how much impact will your tastes in art or porn have on your life? It's not like being gay, bi, transgender, asexual, dating someone of an ethnicity your parents are racist against, .. those things can all have a noticable impact on your life.

Unless you are dealing with recurring anti-X sentiment, I don't see why you would see value in 'coming out' as X (eg. furry, atheist.. consequentialist ..); that seems like it would be a drama queen sort of thing to do.

Being matter of fact about whatever your views are *when it comes up* is far more sensible and portrays it in the right way: "this isn't a big deal, it's just a particular aspect of me"

EDIT: That said, I've never "got" the idea of identifying as a furry at all. It seems far more sensible to me to keep your identity minimal, so that you don't get stupidly caught up in politicking .

Eh, besides the people I've met here, nobody knows

savageorange said:
Unless you are dealing with recurring anti-X sentiment, I don't see why you would see value in 'coming out' as X (eg. furry, atheist.. consequentialist ..); that seems like it would be a drama queen sort of thing to do.

I'm not sure it's so much a matter of the anti-X sentiment. I mean, plenty of people hate furries but most furries still don't feel like they're in the closet about being it.

I mean I think it's a component, sure, but not the main one. I think you were closer to things with it having some significant impact on your life (like with actual orientations that affect your choice or lackthereof of partner).

I can see how it can apply for some atheists though, especially in heavily religious areas where church / religion are central to life (and where there is very much a strong anti-atheist sentiment, though again that's secondary).

Really I feel like in many ways all these groups "coming out" just see it as a thing you do about personal aspects of your life and fail to recognize the reasons it's important in some cases but not in others. Or, I think in some cases they like feeling like they're part of some persecuted minority.

Clawdragons said:
I'm not sure it's so much a matter of the anti-X sentiment. I mean, plenty of people hate furries but most furries still don't feel like they're in the closet about being it.

.. I'm talking about their families or friends trash talking furries, not random people . ie. Anti-X is an example of impact on life.

I think coming out can help as a symbolic gesture, if you're putting a lot of energy into hiding X. It's just for a lot of X that energy is totally wasted to begin with.

Yeah, 'want to feel like a part of a persecuted minority' was basically what I was thinking of when I said 'drama queens'

Xch3l said:
Eh, besides the people I've met here, nobody knows

Only a couple of people know. They really don't care.

It's not like people aren't aware of the furry fandom or anything.

xXMAGIKzMushroomXx said:
Well my dad is aware I looked on this site/furry porn and actually said "well better than real porn" as far as I remember. Although he doesn't agree with Furries. Anyway, I pretty much keep the whole furry thing to myself! Humans still arouse me!

Jesus, you are gonna make your dad drink himself to death :(.
Yeah, I know a few people in real life we skype and snapchat and stuff, more trolls than actual furries though.

Moon_Moon said:
Jesus, you are gonna make your dad drink himself to death :(.

Well it was only once, he doesn't know I'm still on here anyway! Luckily, when I said I was questioning my sexuality (this was around the same time), he said he was OK with it although thought it was a "phase". To be honest, the fact I can find men arousing on here, suggests that I am interested in men at least a bit.

My cousin and one of my brothers, no one else I know IRL.

I ain't ever telling my folks shit!