Topic: I have depression but I don't want to be sad

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I am alone, I feel empty and unrequited
I don't know where to go or who to talk to :S

I don't expect much from here, but at least this is some sort of vent for me.

and if you read this, thank you for that, that's kind of you.

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I can appreciate that you're feeling desperate, as the number of places to turn to for this online are unfortunately small. I get it. But this isn't really the right place for this.

iceink said:
maybe try therapy or something

Currently I'm going to therapy, I have vent out and I have understood things better thanks to that, but even so, I still feel in need of * something *

jacob said:
I can appreciate that you're feeling desperate, as the number of places to turn to for this online are unfortunately small. I get it. But this isn't really the right place for this.

true advice from a true person, the least I can do is appreciate it, and the most I can do is take it
thank you, yes, I won't look for my happiness in here, I've already experienced what kind of things can happen if I do that

delink816~ said:
true advice from a true person, the least I can do is appreciate it, and the most I can do is take it
thank you, yes, I won't look for my happiness in here, I've already experienced what kind of things can happen if I do that

Hey, if you ever need somebody to vent to, though, feel free to hit me up in personal messages for my Discord handle. I'm told I'm a pretty good listener.

jacob said:
Hey, if you ever need somebody to vent to, though, feel free to hit me up in personal messages for my Discord handle. I'm told I'm a pretty good listener.

I wouldn't be sure at all about it, but thank you for saying it

delink816~ said:
I wouldn't be sure at all about it, but thank you for saying it

That's fair. But if you change your mind, the offer stands.

Medication. Instant way to not be depressed, cheaper than therapy, and works more often than therapy. Paxil is a hell of a drug, makes anxiety, and depression, fuck right off so you can enjoy the world around you and be a social butterfly. Its 50$ for a bottle of 30 20mg pills, from wal-mart, with my urgent treatment clinic doctor's RX. Literally just as easy to go to a cheap clinic and tell a doctor you want anti-depressant.

Now, if you want to not fix what ails you, so you can use it as an excuse to vent or bring other people down, then thats your choice, just responding to the thread title. Unless you live in a third-world country, depression is a easy fix, and there are literally hundreds of specific medication treatments that will work if one or another doesn't do the job, all without having to rely on illegal drugs or alcohol.

marflebark said:
Medication. Instant way to not be depressed, cheaper than therapy, and works more often than therapy. Paxil is a hell of a drug, makes anxiety, and depression, fuck right off so you can enjoy the world around you and be a social butterfly. Its 50$ for a bottle of 30 20mg pills, from wal-mart, with my urgent treatment clinic doctor's RX. Literally just as easy to go to a cheap clinic and tell a doctor you want anti-depressant.

Now, if you want to not fix what ails you, so you can use it as an excuse to vent or bring other people down, then thats your choice, just responding to the thread title. Unless you live in a third-world country, depression is a easy fix, and there are literally hundreds of specific medication treatments that will work if one or another doesn't do the job, all without having to rely on illegal drugs or alcohol.

wow thanks everyone's cured

marflebark said:
Medication. Instant way to not be depressed, cheaper than therapy, and works more often than therapy. Paxil is a hell of a drug, makes anxiety, and depression, fuck right off so you can enjoy the world around you and be a social butterfly. Its 50$ for a bottle of 30 20mg pills, from wal-mart, with my urgent treatment clinic doctor's RX. Literally just as easy to go to a cheap clinic and tell a doctor you want anti-depressant.

Now, if you want to not fix what ails you, so you can use it as an excuse to vent or bring other people down, then thats your choice, just responding to the thread title. Unless you live in a third-world country, depression is a easy fix, and there are literally hundreds of specific medication treatments that will work if one or another doesn't do the job, all without having to rely on illegal drugs or alcohol.

Worst advice ever

ckiimyir said:
Worst advice ever

Agreed, and given like the parent who sticks an electronic device in their kid's hands so they don't have to deal with them. Medication doesn't work for everyone. Medication that does work can stop working or need a dosage change. Mental health is a fuckton more complicated than "here, take a pill."

Depression is NOT an easy fix. If you want to fix what ails you, please, please, please talk to a professional and not the randy armchair quarterbacks and jaded trolls on e621.

ckiimyir said:
Worst advice ever

Is it even that easy to get medication? Don’t you need to be diagnosed by a psychiatrist first? Secondly I don’t want to spend $600 a year on pills, although it’s probably more than that because I don’t have insurance.

ccoyote said:
Agreed, and given like the parent who sticks an electronic device in their kid's hands so they don't have to deal with them. Medication doesn't work for everyone. Medication that does work can stop working or need a dosage change. Mental health is a fuckton more complicated than "here, take a pill."

Depression is NOT an easy fix. If you want to fix what ails you, please, please, please talk to a professional and not the randy armchair quarterbacks and jaded trolls on e621.

Ultimately, even that only does so much. Having someone to confide in privately does help, but it's even better if you also have someone with a more personal connection. It's all up to you in the end and not having to rely on any one source as a crutch. It takes strength to move forward, it really does.

I think I'll also mention, psychology itself... I think it's worth looking into the subject. It can help, and one may find it pretty intriguing.

It's important to help yourself to understand as much as you can.

delink816~ said:
true advice from a true person, the least I can do is appreciate it, and the most I can do is take it
thank you, yes, I won't look for my happiness in here, I've already experienced what kind of things can happen if I do that

Same here dude. Not sure what kind of experiences you've had but I actually made a move to vent to a specific artist out of desperation then proceed to bungle the entire interaction in most likely the absolute worst way imaginable. Like so badly I really should not be talking about it. He really did try to help though and he didn't fail but... my point is you're not alone and I doubt you ever fucked yourself as hard as I did myself. What really matters is just making your life better. Like, actually better.

Not sure if you still want advice or anything but one thing that has helped me so far with the whole process is being 100% honest with myself (or trying to anyway). Anyway, I shouldn't be this sappy but hope things are better for you.

Firstly I'm not there for you to vent out but exchange, talk and discuss about any kind of thing you want.
I will also not elaborate much here to not make it too long. Maybe I failed already but... Oh well. I tried.

I'm no professional or one to be but I also don't know how really effective those can be. I would believe with my little knowledge I have that there are things that professionals can't help even with all they did and do to get to where they are. Not belittling though. You yourself said that you go to therapy and it helped you.

Before my ramble: if you don't know why you have that feelings maybe looking for things that has the opposite effect in your life could help out. If that doesn't help I can only offer the thing I said above.

Some simple things I always think about depression or some things I ask myself if I feel down or similar.
The most important thing I never can deny in any way is the mindset. If someone says I'm feeling bad he will feel bad even if the circumstances they are in are not the ones from somebody to feel bad and some people feel good while 90% of people wouldn't in their shoes. However changing said mindset is no easy task but not impossible either.
For example your message has one of the things I often use myself. "I won't look for my happiness in here, I've already experienced what kind of things can happen if I do that" You put it up as a wall to protect you but you could do more with it, too. Where and why should I have how much and what kind of expectations with which outcome and in which way should the outcome affect me. I would really love to elaborate this but I'll stop here. Feel free to answer here or in a dm ;D

People have sources of strength which is often also set as their reason to live. For some people it's their religion, for some their family/friends/important people and for some it's an ambition. It's also in this order for those three in kind of stability. A source which is your ambition can be easily destroyed in maaaaany ways. People can be a source of strength but also of negative feelings, too. If you know your religion and believe in it while doing so will give you strength with no end, but if you don't know it and it's just a believing you do can lead to after getting that knowledge to the biggest kind of disappointments and despairs. I would also like to talk about this in more detail.

I kept everything really short and open. I would be happy to talk about these if you also want to.

marflebark said:
Medication. Instant way to not be depressed, cheaper than therapy, and works more often than therapy. Paxil is a hell of a drug, makes anxiety, and depression, fuck right off so you can enjoy the world around you and be a social butterfly. Its 50$ for a bottle of 30 20mg pills, from wal-mart, with my urgent treatment clinic doctor's RX. Literally just as easy to go to a cheap clinic and tell a doctor you want anti-depressant.

Now, if you want to not fix what ails you, so you can use it as an excuse to vent or bring other people down, then thats your choice, just responding to the thread title. Unless you live in a third-world country, depression is a easy fix, and there are literally hundreds of specific medication treatments that will work if one or another doesn't do the job, all without having to rely on illegal drugs or alcohol.

I know I'm late to this one, but bruh. Yeah don't find people you can confide in or seek meaning in your life and make personal changes to improve your quality of life. JUST POP A PILL! Great advice, Big Pharma.

marflebark said:
Medication. Instant way to not be depressed, cheaper than therapy, and works more often than therapy. Paxil is a hell of a drug, makes anxiety, and depression, fuck right off so you can enjoy the world around you and be a social butterfly. Its 50$ for a bottle of 30 20mg pills, from wal-mart, with my urgent treatment clinic doctor's RX. Literally just as easy to go to a cheap clinic and tell a doctor you want anti-depressant.

Now, if you want to not fix what ails you, so you can use it as an excuse to vent or bring other people down, then thats your choice, just responding to the thread title. Unless you live in a third-world country, depression is a easy fix, and there are literally hundreds of specific medication treatments that will work if one or another doesn't do the job, all without having to rely on illegal drugs or alcohol.

Medication certainly is an option, but lauding it as this instant cure-all is pretty shockingly ignorant. I'm lucky that my meds worked on the first go, but even then, having to deal with your body adjusting to your medication alongside quite a few unpleasant side effects is not fun at all and took me a good month and a half to start actually feeling better, and even then I spent a good couple months after that like an emotionless zombie. I know someone that's on her EIGHTH prescription as none of her other tablets have worked.
So ye, glad your meds worked for you flawlessly, but for many MANY people life ain't that easy or pleasant :p

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