As someone who have only told a few people of my interest in the furry fandom, I'm curious to hear how others dealt with the dilemma of explaining to close friends or family members how it all works.

Didn't we already have this thread?
I could have sworn we already had this thread.

I didn't, since it's a fetish, not a life style :o

Wow, people can come out about anything and everything these days. I should come out as a black guy, even though i'm sure my skin tone gave it away long ago.

Peekaboo said:
I didn't find any, but since I'm derp I probably missed it, Might as well remove this then.

It's possible I'm remembering incorrectly, might be some other forum I'm thinking of.

Parents don't give a shit.

Though my father doesn't like it because there's a lot of homosexuality in it and he is very anti gay.

Other then that, parents don't give a shit as long as I am happy.

Why would I tell my parents what type of porn I like getting off to?

I'm not a furry, I'm here for the art (read, porn).

I just don't see the point in having a fursona, and roleplaying and yiffing and all that crap.

Dogenzaka said:
Wow, people can come out about anything and everything these days. I should come out as a black guy, even though i'm sure my skin tone gave it away long ago.

I don't know, man, that seems like a pretty big step. Do you think your parents will accept you?

You need to "come out"? Unless they're already a furry (in which point they've probably already guessed), why would they even care?

Telling people "Hey I consider myself a part of (random interest) fandom" always comes across as strange. If you want to introduce people to something, just introduce them, let them find out there's a fandom later.

NotMeNotYou said:
I'm not a furry, I'm here for the art (read, porn).

I just don't see the point in having a fursona, and roleplaying and yiffing and all that crap.

Same reason why I've never 'come out' right here.

At first, I didn't tell anyone but then I told my sister, then she told my older sister, then I told my mom and some friends and that's about it. I do plan on going to some cons in the future; they look fun.

One more thing,
Guys.....I'm black

TheHuskyK9 said:
One more thing,
Guys.....I'm black

Does the black community accept furries?
Or are they treated like... black sheep

Munkelzahn said:
Does the black community accept furries?
Or are they treated like... black sheep

Yeah, we're actually pretty open to a lot of stuff. Just as long as you act sane, it's all good

No matter what you say, this is what your parents will hear, "Mom, Dad. I fuck the dog while you are out"

The retarded shit people think they need to do when they are 19 I swear.

I came out since 19/01/2991. That's when my I told my parents. And given the time they were all like "Ok, man. Whatever floats your boat… and stuff"

Xch3l said:
I came out since 19/01/2991.

out since 19/01/2991

19/01/2991

2991

post #144902

corgi_bread said:
post #144902

The reason his parents are so chill: They are dead.

Kaiselius said:
Why would I tell my parents what type of porn I like getting off to?

This. I'm in the furry closet and very much staying there since I don't consider being a furry as a big part of my identity

I'm pretty sure they will just sigh and think it's some kind of game or something

So what you are saying is...

Xch3l said:
I came out since 19/01/2991. That's when my I told my parents. And given the time they were all like "Ok, man. Whatever floats your boat… and stuff"

you are a minor?

I've never told my parents because that would be an unbelievably stupid and selfish thing to do, but I did tell one friend after getting mega stoned on Ambien by showing them a video of porn pics set to Closer by NIN.

ippiki_ookami said:
I've never told my parents because that would be an unbelievably stupid and selfish thing to do, but I did tell one friend after getting mega stoned on Ambien by showing them a video of porn pics set to Closer by NIN.

This.

Some friends know, but only since they know me and it happens. It's never something worth sharing

Aurali said:
So what you are saying is...you are a minor?

His parents are alive in 2991 that means that technically he is about -900 years old. -900 is lower then 18 so he should be banned. Rules say so.

Gilda_The_Gryphon said:
His parents are alive in 2991 that means that technically he is about -900 years old. -900 is lower then 18 so he should be banned. Rules say so.

Until 2931 is seems D:

:P

I didn't come out, what would be the point of doing so?

I don't know whether to laugh or cry when people say this. I don't see any reason to tell your parents you're a knot lover.

And unless you live with your parents you don't have to tell them about every single thing you do. >_>

Rusteee said:
I don't know whether to laugh or cry when people say this. I don't see any reason to tell your parents you're a knot lover.

And unless you live with your parents you don't have to tell them about every single thing you do. >_>

Not every furry likes furry porn :p

TheHuskyK9 said:
Not every furry likes furry porn :p

True enough I suppose. But anyone on e621 probably does. :/

Got an Anthrocon mailer once...

TheHuskyK9 said:
Not every furry likes furry porn :p

Every furry I've ever talked to has at least shown curiosity in the more promiscuous side of the fandom.

Also, I've never told my parents about my being a furry. It's not a life style to me, it's just an interest. Besides, my parents don't need to know what porn I get off to. :/

Eh, they just kinda figured it out themselves. Didn't even need to explain anything either l3

NotMeNotYou said:
I'm not a furry, I'm here for the art (read, porn).

I just don't see the point in having a fursona, and roleplaying and yiffing and all that crap.

I'm pretty similar to this, it just happens to be one of my fetishes. Don't remember why, when, or how I got into it, don't really care.

I disagree fundamentally with the concept of "coming-out". You shouldn't have to answer to others for your path or preferences, as it doesn't harm anyone else. Its nobody's business but yours.

There's a social science concept, I don't know if it has a name, but it's basically that when you divide people by groups, such as race, gender, orientation, etc, you are indirectly contributing to intolerance, it works to discourage being part of one of these "groups".

Dester said:
There's a social science concept, I don't know if it has a name, but it's basically that when you divide people by groups, such as race, gender, orientation, etc, you are indirectly contributing to intolerance, it works to discourage being part of one of these "groups".

Segregation?

Saying I like furry porn but Im not a furry is like saying I love gay porn but Im not gay or at least bi. But thank you for the good laugh.

Not all furries are murry purry weirdos who dress up like animals and bark at people.

Dester said:
There's a social science concept, I don't know if it has a name, but it's basically that when you divide people by groups, such as race, gender, orientation, etc, you are indirectly contributing to intolerance

That's very true. Although, I think that's only true if the groups are exclusive to each other, eg: furry/"normal"non-furry, LGBT/straight, etc etc. I think the effect is counteracted or even neutralized when both groups are inclusive of each other so that no conflict about membership to both exists. For instance LBGT-straight-allies groups don't seem to have the same social effect as regular LGBT groups simply because it includes both groups equally without excluding either one at the expense of both. Non-furry example just because I don't know a "furry" equivalent. Irony notwithstanding.

Dester said:
There's a social science concept, I don't know if it has a name, but it's basically that when you divide people by groups, such as race, gender, orientation, etc, you are indirectly contributing to intolerance, it works to discourage being part of one of these "groups".

I think that could be called labeling. It's like saying "I have a gay friend" Instead of just "I have a friend" who happens to be gay, but mentioning it like it's not normal could be considered kind of intolerant. :/

Rusteee said:
Saying I like furry porn but Im not a furry is like saying I love gay porn but Im not gay or at least bi. But thank you for the good laugh.

I know many guys (including myself) that likes gay porn and have no interest in dating another dude. Your level of ignorance is high bro.

TheHuskyK9 said:
I know many guys (including myself) that likes gay porn and have no interest in dating another dude. Your level of ignorance is high bro.

You don't have to date other men to be gay. Having sexual interest in other men makes you gay or bi.

I'm just saying most straight men would not like gay porn. It doesn't make you gay but I think it makes you a little bi at least. :/

edit: In hindsight it all depends on your opinion of porn. Rather if you would do that or if it's just a fantasy.

Rusteee said:
You don't have to date other men to be gay. Having sexual interest in other men makes you gay or bi.

Dude, since when does looking at stuff determine your sexual preference? By your definition, that means I'm gay even though I would never even kiss another man, let alone have sex with him.

TheHuskyK9 said:
Dude, since when does looking at stuff determine your sexual preference? By your definition, that means I'm gay even though I would never even kiss another man, let alone have sex with him.

I never said you were gay and why are you getting so defensive if you're so secure about your sexuality?

Like I said, it depends on your opinion of porn.

Rusteee said:
I never said you were gay and why are you getting so defensive if you're so secure about your sexuality?

I'm being defensive because you're implying that all straight dudes that like gay porn are automatically gay.

Rusteee said:
it depends on your opinion of porn.

If you said that earlier, we wouldn't be having this convo now would we?

There are even men who (gasp) have sex with other men and still consider themselves straight:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Down-low_%28sexual_slang%29

TheHuskyK9 said:
If you said that earlier, we wouldn't be having this convo now would we?

Well sorry that I have a different opinion than you.

I AM A FILLY AND WHAT IS THIS

Seriously though,

Mom... Dad... I like jacking off to pictures of horse women with absurdly large dicks while trotting around in my sister's clothes with a toy up my ass. I love you guys.
<- Award Worthy

RoxFox64 said:
I AM A FILLY AND WHAT IS THIS

Seriously though,

Mom... Dad... I like jacking off to pictures of horse women with absurdly large dicks while trotting around in my sister's clothes with a toy up my ass. I love you guys.
<- Award Worthy

Get in on video.

Rusteee said:
Saying I like furry porn but Im not a furry is like saying I love gay porn but Im not gay or at least bi. But thank you for the good laugh.

Not all furries are murry purry weirdos who dress up like animals and bark at people.

I believe this depends on your personal definition of either furry or gay/bi.

For me, a furry is someone who partakes in activities inside the so called furry fandom, meaning attending conventions, having furry merchandise (wearable ears or tails, Shirts to advertise furry sites[We need a e621.net shirt, btw],...), and most importantly: got a fursona who he identifies with.
Based on this definition, I'm not a furry because all those are big negative, I simply look at the art and move on to look at more furry art, I don't partake in anything except discussions where I think my PoV or expertise with something might be beneficial to the topic at hand, but besides that I stay outside of everything furry.

Same goes for gay, if you definition of being gay means jerking it to gay porn makes you gay, than yes, you are gay, if your definition only includes partaking in gay activities (as opposed to only fantasizing about them) then no, you aren't gay for looking at gay porn.
And in this vein, quite a few girls I know find gay male porn hot, are they gay too? If you enjoy lesbian porn, are you a lesbian, too?

For me, being gay or bi or lesbian or straight simply means to which gender the person in question is attracted to in Real life and wishes to enter a (sexual) relationship with.
You are female and wish to fornicate as many woman as you can? Lesbian.
You are female and wish to fornicate your male neighbour? Straight.
You are male who fantasizes about being nailed by dude but wish to enter a relationship with a female because you'd enjoy this more in the long run? Straight.

NotMeNotYou said:

You are male who fantasizes about being nailed by dude but wish to enter a relationship with a female because you'd enjoy this more in the long run? Straight.

No, that's bi with choosing the easier way

ippiki_ookami said:
I've never told my parents because that would be an unbelievably stupid and selfish thing to do, but I did tell one friend after getting mega stoned on Ambien by showing them a video of porn pics set to Closer by NIN.

Link please? ([иIN] is my fetish)

KodaForShort said:
Got an Anthrocon mailer once...

Went to AC this past year, just told my mother I was going to Pittsburgh. My brother already knew. The shirts I brought home were discovered (the word "Anthrocon") when my mother did the wash and she googled it. She thinks it's kind of weird and I'm not sure how accurate of an idea she has, but she appears to be fine with it.

My father doesn't know. My stepparents don't know either but my stepmother was curious about it after I made a comment supporting the fandom on some news article.

Rusteee said:
True enough I suppose. But anyone on e621 probably does. :/

not necessarily...i never really saw enjoyment in porn. tbh I just think it's gross and unnecessary.

furrypickle said:
-Snipped-

Yeah, you nailed what I was trying to get across there. If you just have an LGBT group, the (unconscious) assumption you take from this is that the LGBT people are somehow "separate" from the rest of the population. I realize that these do serve a legitimate function though, as there is a serious amount of real intolerance towards these groups, so they deserve support, but in an ideal situation, we wouldn't have or need any support groups for things as trivial as sexual preference or your race.

There was a video with Morgan Freeman talking about Black History Month, saying "You want to relegate my history to a month?" and when the interviewer asked him "Well how can we stop racism then?" Morgan replied: "Stop talking about it."

The video if you're interested:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GeixtYS-P3s

Moon_Moon said:
Link please? ([иIN] is my fetish)

This was a thing I made back in 2006, it's loooong gone.

Dester said:
...If you just have an LGBT group, the (unconscious) assumption you take from this is that the LGBT people are somehow "separate" from the rest of the population...

Exactly. Because it's predicated on the concept of separation and exclusivity (that gay people can't be a "normal" part of the rest of the community, they're a separate community, or so they say) then by its nature it reinforces those two concepts. And it's true that there's still a lot of good coming from these type of groups. But because of this, I think it's more of a mixed bag than it needs to be. I just think it would be better if we had LGBTS[Lesbian-Gay-Bisexual-Trans-Straight] and focused more on inclusivity and everyone's sexuality and rights. Promoting community building between the two "communities" by treating them as one whole community. I think that's the path to real equality. Separate will never lead to being equal.

I've seen this same pattern in race groups, gender groups, orientation groups, and yes even furry vs "normal" etc. And I can't help noticing that every group that builds off of separation and exclusivity only ends up fracturing within itself into more and more intolerant schisms. It makes the group about as toxic as it is helpful. And I think that's because the main premise of how the group was set up ends up sabotaging what it was intending to do; trying to bring unity by accidentally creating more separation. And I love that interview with Morgan Freeman. Heard it oft quoted but never seen the video before, so thanks for adding the link! Frankly I think he's brilliant on this.

RE: the original thread -- I guess I'm just doing the same thing I do about my other labels. I just keep on living like a normal person. I'm prepared to explain something if need be, IF it even comes up. But I don't want it to be the focus about me. It's just one facet. So I keep it with all the other facets, for when people genuinely get to know me. I don't feel like I need to bring it up or give it special weight any more than the fact I don't like caraway seeds. I guess my philosophy is to treat the exotic parts of me just as normally as anything else about me. You'd be amazed how many people follow suit: basing their reactions off of your attitude about it. Anyways, that's just my take on it.

This thread, along with the one asking "is funny pr0n going down hill?", are personally the stupidest fucking things I've ever seen.

TheTundraTerror said:
This thread, along with the one asking "is funny pr0n going down hill?", are personally the stupidest fucking things I've ever seen.

What about the pig balls?

Gilda_The_Gryphon said:
What about the pig balls?

Fortunately, I didn't bother clicking the images. :3

Gilda_The_Gryphon said:
What about the pig balls?

I wonder what happened to that dude. He has been doing anything for a long time

PheagleAdler said:
[stuff]

Yeah, the one I got back in 08 had an anthro character on it and the name in huge letters. Essentially unavoidable

liztoys said:
I didn't, since it's a fetish, not a life style :o [REDACTED]

So's getting banned for spamming ads.

This gets me moist.

Don't quote the spambots, it just makes more work for the mods.

Edit: that may be backseat modding. Sorry. As a mod elsewhere, that's one of my rage buttons.

Look on the bright side. This spambot is less pathetic than previous one. It makes coherent sentence, but is yet too stupid to know how to DText work. If this progress will continue few more tries, we will get true AI.

Relevant XKCD

Snowy said:
Relevant XKCD

There is just one minor flaw in his design: The spammers making a massive legion of bots that upvote each other.

Gilda_The_Gryphon said:
Look on the bright side. This spambot is less pathetic than previous one. It makes coherent sentence, but is yet too stupid to know how to DText work. If this progress will continue few more tries, we will get true AI.

Nah, it copied the 5th post in the thread and added the failed dtext link.
It didn't actually make it's own coherent sentence.

Halite said:
Nah, it copied the 5th post in the thread and added the failed dtext link.
It didn't actually make it's own coherent sentence.

How comes spambots are able to bypass

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How about a test (like captchas but a lot easier) which selects one of the -- more than 360,000 -- available posts and asks to input a word that is actually a tag in the post?

You can make forum posts before the week is up.

Xch3l said:
captchas

Nope.pvr

Based on some discussion back in page one, I have to bump this thread to share this.